Sex Education

How Men Want Intimacy in Bed

I was completely turned off by the title of this piece (a clever trick by Thomas Fiffer!) and almost didn’t read it, but I am glad I did! These three things that men want in bed is personally relatable and, I think, relevant to a lot of other blokes out there. Why are these three things not discussed by men? Because they move into levels of intimacy men think they can’t/shouldn’t experience and their partners think the same way. Intimacy can be a great connection…which can equal better sex for all.

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Sex Education / Sex Health

Should We Talk About the Fact That Anal Sex Might Hurt?—My Latest on Kinkly!

My most recent article on Kinkly “Should We Talk About the Fact That Anal Sex Might Hurt?” is a consideration of pain potential. Of course, we celebrate the joys and pleasures of sex—anal included—but should we also bring to the discussion the potential for a wide range of unpleasant sensation. It could be awesome, it could be okay, it could be uncomfortable, it could be awful. It may or may not have something to do with what you’re doing and it may or may not have something to do with what your partner is doing. Or does prefacing discussion with …

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Sex Bloggers / The Hook-Up

The Hook-up: Beck And Her Kinks

Introducing Beck And Her Kinks   Refreshing. Open. Honest. These are some of the words I’d use to describe Beck and her wonderful site Beck And Her Kinks. Her approach to sex, toys and review is unique and engaging. Her photos are compelling and inviting. Her words are genuine. It was a pleasure to learn more about Beck and her work. How did you get into sex blogging?  I started out writing sex toy reviews for a company and eventually branched out into blogging. I originally set out to only be a sex toy review blog, but when I found …

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Sex Education / Sex Entertainment / Sex Events

Down and Dirty: DIY Porn Workshop

Down and Dirty: DIY Porn WorkshopThe University of Toronto Sexual Education Centre welcomes the Feminist Porn Awards and Good For Her’s workshop on creating your own sexy films. Fabulous Feminist Porn Award winning filmmaker Sonya Barnett teaches you how to make quality porn on a limited budget. Workshops by Shine Louise Houston and Jiz Lee (Pink and White), Clark Matthews and Mia Gimp (Krutch) and Tobi Hill-Meyer (Handbasket Productions) discuss how to respectfully recruit, shoot and market films including people of colour, trans folk and people with disabilities. All welcome, including allies. Saturday November 1-2, 10am-5pm Hart House, University of …

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Sex Community / Sex Events

Long Weekend Fun at Oasis! Karaoke, Pole Tricks, Negligees, Ladies Night and Spanksgiving!

Long Weekend Fun—Karaoke Thursday, Pole Tricks Friday, Negligee Saturday, Ladies Night Sunday evening and Spanksgiving Monday Out with the Old in with the New Events This Week at the Oasis Notice Oasis Aqualounge has resurfaced our hot tub in order to provide you with a more luxurious experience. We look forward to unveiling the new and improved hot tub today during our popular event DTF! Plan Your Visit Events for couples & women: Thursday October 9 -Double Your Pleasure & Naked Karaoke Friday October 10 -Pole Envy Saturday October 11 -Naughty Negligee Sunday October 12 -Staycation Sunday (Daytime) Events for …

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Sex Education / Sex Events

Prostate Pleasure Workshop to benefit Movember!

My Prostate Pleasure workshop returns for a third year! This time we’ll be hosted by Good for Her. Be sure to get your tickets early! Prostate Pleasure Workshop to benefit Movember!  Date: Wednesday November 05, 2014 Time : 7:00 pm to 9:30 pm Good for Her 175 Harbord St., Toronto Price : $33.00 CAD   Have you checked out the hottest spot in town? The P-Spot! Prostate massage is a sexy and intimate way to bring yourself or your partner to new heights of sexual pleasure—while at the same time gaining some health benefits! This workshop covers anatomy, techniques, toys …

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Sex Community / Sex Events

The GrUE returns to Toronto!

The GrUE returns to Toronto! Friday, December 5, 2014 at 7:00 PM – Sunday, December 7, 2014 at 3:00 PM (EST) Toronto, ON What IS a GrUE, you may ask? A GrUE is an un-conference – a gathering that is is participant driven and self-organizing. Rather than impose an outside agenda on the attendees, the schedule is generated through a fast-moving group exercise facilitated by Gray. The group creates a day filled with a variety of subjects, some of which deal with rope and some of which stretch far beyond. Gender theory? Power dynamics? Scene design? STD awareness? Kinky spirituality? …

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erotica / Sex Writing

Men on the Make: Shane Allison Confesses

Do you tell your sexy secrets? Do you want people to know what you get up to? Would you ever write a story about them? After interviewing fantastic writer/editor Shane Allison on Sex City this past summer, I knew I’d like to learn more about his projects, and shortly thereafter Men on the Make (Cleis Press) showed up on my doorstep. This amazing collection of “true gay sex confessions” is both telling and titillating so I knew I had to continue this conversation with Shane. What was the first sexy/dirty/smutty thing you ever committed to paper? I wrote poems for a …

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Call for Submissions / erotica

Call For Submissions: Cobblestone Press

Call For Submissions Cobblestone Press has established itself as a leader in high-quality erotica and erotic romance since 2006 with a highly trained editing staff and cover artists that produce stand-out covers. We are currently available on the top e-book distributors with over 550 titles, and we’re always looking for great writing from brand new to the industry writers, or those who are well-established looking to broaden their publishing credits. We are actively seeking all genres of erotica, but are especially interested acquiring BDSM, gay, and ménage (M/F/M or M/M/F) between 5,000-10,000 words. We only accept full manuscript submissions, and …

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erotica

Give Yourself Over to Submission: Erotica for Women

The hot topic in sex these days is submission. People are learning to understand and embrace their submissive sides in ways that are both sexy and revolutionary. Alex Algren has collected an tremendous grouping of stories that explore our newfound acceptance of giving ourselves in Submission: Erotica for Women. This excerpt, from Debra Hyde is a tantalizing peek into this brave new world. “A Necessary Correction” By Debra Hyde A shuffle of movement. Gordon, approaching. The bed sinks under his weight, tilting Kiana toward him. Like the flesh catching against her teeth, it is a diminutive sensation, likely imperceptible to …

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Sex Bloggers / Sex Community / TMI Tuesday

TMI Tuesday – October 7, 2014—Memorable & Amazing

TMI Tuesday – October 7, 2014 Welcome to TMI Tuesday “Memorable & Amazing” Memorable sex is not necessarily amazing sex, though amazing sex is certainly memorable. Memorable: hard to forget. Amazing: startlingly impressive. 1. Tell us your top 3 memorable and/or amazing sexual experiences thus far in 2014. Getting rimmed for the first time in many years, dog park shenanigans, exploring a power structure of performing oral on my partner while she reads 2. What made the encounters memorable/amazing? Reliving the extreme intimacy and intense feelings involved in acts not experienced every day. 3. What is memorable and amazing about you? Bonus: …

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Call for Submissions / erotica

Call for Submissions: BannedFiction Press

Call For Submissions BannedFiction Press is a new publisher, now accepting submissions for all of our categories. We specialize in erotica fiction, that excites.  At this time, we welcome submissions from all authors, both established published authors, as well as new authors. Please read through our blog to learn more about us.  And we look forward to hearing from you soon and receiving your manuscripts! We are paying 35% net royalties. We purchase worldwide English language rights for all print and digital forms, translation rights, audio rights, and some other select subsidiary rights that we have historically had an opportunity …

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erotica / Muse Mondays

Muse Mondays: Ripping Good Tease

Sometimes, the little acts can be so important and so damn sexy. This is one of my favourite parts of sex. As I am not wealthy, it isn’t a daily experience, but when I can hear that hot, particular tearing, parts of me jump. I was delighted to find this inspiration via a great sex blogger, Seaside Slut Diary. Ripping Good Tease I knew it. She likes to surprise me, but I knew it. She had stopped to call me from a pay phone, despite her cell being in her pocket. Pay phone means new, different, adventure. That call meant …

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Sex and Politics / Sex Education / Sex Health

Pegging as Violence?

I’ve been intrigued by the concept of PTSD and “violent” sex since reading Mac McClelland’s work. However, this piece, while very interesting, had me confused right from the beginning because I feel a part of the narrative has been left out. Since when has pegging been, automatically, equated with violent sex?  She does address this at the end of the piece, but it really seems something was cut or left out near the beginning. Or is that how she really felt about strap-on sex, that it had to be about domination, that that penetration had to be about violence? It …

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