Sep 14

Sex Stories We Love: Trans Youth & Pregnancy, the Sweetest Candy, Sexy & Heart Smart & More!

There is so much opportunity out there to discover what sex is for different people, what it does for different people, what it means to different people…how we can learn from all of this.

In this week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly, check out stories on Trans Youth and Pregnancy, The Sweetest Candy, Written on the Body, Circumspect? and Sexy and Heart Smart.

Sep 11


Call for Submissions

Deep Desires Press is a new publisher of erotica and high-heat-level erotic romance. We focus on quality rather than quantity – we would much rather have a handful of top-notch stories than a full catalogue of mediocre books. Our main goal is to excite the reader, to take their imagination into the most erotic of scenarios. We expect to launch in the winter of 2016/2017 and are currently seeking submissions in the categories listed below.

Authors will earn 50% royalties (after the vendor takes its cut) and will receive full editing, cover art, and marketing support from Deep Desires Press. Submissions are expected to be well-written, well-edited, and reasonably error-free.

First, a few general details: 

Genres: We are seeking all genres and subgenres of erotica and erotic romance. This includes contemporary, paranormal, LGBTQ+, BDSM, historical, sci-fi, fantasy, etc.

Pairings: We are seeking stories featuring any pairing – MF, MM, FF, group/ménage/multiple partner, and we are inclusive of trans*-identified characters.

Wish List: While we are open to any and all submissions that meet the criteria of this Call For Submissions, we are particularly keen on submissions that reflect real life, including, but not limited to, multi-racial casts of characters, accurate depictions of LGBTQ+ relationships and sex, and settings outside of Canada and USA.

Banned Content: We will not accept submissions containing underage characters in sexual situations, bestiality, necrophilia, yellow play, brown play, incest, pseudo-incest, non-con, dub-con, or rel-con.

Social Media and Self-Promotion: Authors are expected to have at least two mediums for self-promotion, such as Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, newsletter, Pinterest, blog, website, Google+, etc. When submitting, please include relevant links in your query letter. In the case of a newsletter, please include the current number of subscribers.

Rights: Deep Desires Press will seek ebook, print, and audio rights from the author. However, at present, we are expecting to publish in ebook-format only. Contracts are for three years from publication, renewed on an annual basis thereafter.

New Content: We are primarily looking for new works only. However, if your work has been previously published and you currently hold full rights, we will consider these works on a case-by-case basis.

What we’re looking for: 

Short Stories

Length: 5,000 – 10,000 words
Genre: Erotica
Need: High

Details: We are seeking erotica short stories that feature at least one intense sex scene, as well as an engaging framing story. In particular, we are looking for stories that contain series potential from authors who can maintain a fairly regular output. If your story has series potential and you know where subsequent stories will venture, please include this in your query letter.


Length: 10,001 – 25,000 words
Genre: Erotica, Erotic Romance
Need: High

Details: We are seeking novellas that feature multiple sex scenes with an engaging storyline. Erotic romance novellas must have a “happily ever after” or “happy for now” ending. While we would prefer stories with series potential, this is not necessary.


Length: 25,001 words and up
Genre: Erotica, Erotic Romance
Need: Low

Details: We are primarily focusing on short stories and novellas, but we are always open to a novel-length manuscript that catches our attention. Erotic romance novels must have a “happily ever after” or “happy for now” ending.

How to submit: 

Please query via email to submissions(at)deepdesirespress(dot)com, following the guidelines below:

In the body of your email, please include a brief query letter outlining who you are, what your book is about, the length of your book, your plans for sequels (if any), and relevant social media links. For novellas and novels, please also include a synopsis of your work in the body of your email, below your letter.

Please attach your story, novella, or novel to the email as a Word file (doc or docx). Documents should be double-spaced with one-inch margins and in Times New Roman 12-point font.

At present, response time is within one to two weeks.

For more information: 

For more information on Deep Desires Press, please visit our website at or email us at submissions(at)deepdesirespress(dot)com.

Thank you for your interest.

Sep 07

Sex Stories We Love: A Terrible Week, Dressing Up, Erotic Emoji & More!

Folks, there’s no way around it: Last week sucked in sex news. A whole bunch of shitty things happened and it was disheartening. However, out of that poop-pile of a week, more resistance, more backlash more desire to change was shown. And this proves were on the right path for sex.

This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly rounds up the bad but moves on to things that are good.

Check out stories on A Terrible Week, Dressing Up, Hump Day Bumps, Erotic Emojis, Name is Not a Game and Carnal Canvasses.

Sep 05

My Next Sex City—Sept 20! With Nicole Prause! Phillip Coupal! Fatima Mechtab!

  • Dr. Nicole Prause is a neuroscientist researching human sexual behaviour, addiction, and the physiology of sexual response and the founder of Liberos LLC, an independent research institute. She will talk to us about the difficulties sex researchers face.
  • Phillip Coupal is a traditional Counsellor in bodywork who helps individuals and couples at the Awaken Studio in Toronto.
  • Fatima Mechtab from Oasis Aqualounge joins us again to highlight the amazing event coming up at Oasis as we move into autumn.

Tune in, 11pm – midnight on TUESDAY SEPTEMBER 20 to CIUT 89.5FM in the Toronto area or stream live online!

Aug 26

My latest Sex City with Vanessa dr Largie, Luna Matatas & Jerry Barnett!

My latest Sex City was a lot of fun, with some pretty serious talk mixed in. Thank you to my guests for some great talk!

  • Vanessa de Largie is an Australian sex writer and columnist whose work focuses on feminism, fierce female sexuality and women’s issues
  • Luna Matatas told about her sex education work, with a particular focus on CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)
  • Jerry Barnett discussed the controversial state of porn in the UK by telling us about his book Porn Panic! Sex and Censorship in the UK

Check out my latest edition of Sex City HERE

Aug 24

Sex Stories We Love: Buck-off and Enjoy Yourself, DIY Orgasm Fun, & Accepting Anal

It is always fun to capture all that is changing in the world of sex through Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly. I am constantly amazed by the developments and the headway we, as a collective group of sexy, super people are making.

Check out stories on Buck-off and Enjoy Yourself, Pornography and Poor Health?, DIY Orgasm Fun, Oh La La! France Maps the Clit!, Sex Ed: Not Just in School and Home and Accepting Anal.

Aug 07

My next Sex City—August 23! Vanessa de Largie! Jerry Barnett! Luna Matatas!

  • Vanessa de Largie is an Australian sex writer and columnist whose work focuses on feminism, fierce female sexuality and women’s issues
  • Luna Matatas will tell us about her sex education work, with a particular focus on CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)
  • Jerry Barnett will delve into the controversial state of porn in the UK by telling us about his book Porn Panic! Sex and Censorship in the UK

Tune in, 11pm – midnight on TUESDAY AUGUST 23 to CIUT 89.5FM in the Toronto area or stream live online!

Aug 01

Can Brave New World’s Sensual Cinema Turn Us on Today? My latest on Future of Sex!

It was a lot of fun to revisit one of my favourite books—through a different lens for Future of Sex! When I read Brave New World in high school, I do not recall sex being such a significant focus of our studies. This isn’t really surprising, we delved much more into the ideas around soma than we did The Feelies. However, the thought of a moviegoing experience that included physical sensation seems particularly prescient considering our current more to 4D, VR and beyond.

Check out Can Brave New World’s Sensual Cinema Turn Us on Today?

Jul 29

Listen to my latest Sex City with Andre Shakti, Asa Akira and Kay Brandt!

I was delighted to welcome three guests to Sex City who you might know better for their work in the porn industry, but who are venturing out with other projects!


Jul 26

Seven Deadly Sex Sins: Pride


We all want to think positively of ourselves and we all want to be acknowledged for our abilities. And that is great! Self-confidence and pride is a valuable and important thing. But it is key to not let it all go too far to your head so that you stop listening to your partner or lover—especially in bed.

Thank you for reading this series of the 7 Deadly Sex Sins and many thanks to Cara Sutra for running these posts on her site!

Check out Pride – Swallow It & Listen

Past posts in the series:

Envy: Is the Ass Greener on the Other Side?

Greed: All the Want, All the Time

Sloth: Have Great Sex…When You Get Around To It

Gluttony: Is Your Bed Too Big?

LUST: Between a Crotch and a Hard Place

Wrath: Maybe We Should Go to Bed Angry

Jul 24

Sex News! I love it! July 24, 2016

Sex Stories We Love: Never Too Old, Powering On, & Gearing Up

Sex Industry Entrepreneurs on VR Porn, AI Sex Partners and More – CraveOnline » This Bi Life: I Don’t Feel Bi Enough

One frightening live sex show and the state of 360 video

Who Wants Freebies? | Let’s Talk Free Sex Toys, Goody Bags & More

Penis Measuring Contests in History That Got Out of Hand

Watching These People Orgasm Is A Startlingly Intimate Experience (NSFW)

How (And Why) To Tell Your Doctor About Your Kinky Sex Games | YourTango

Why regular sex can help you stay slim and stop you binge-eating  | Daily Mail Online

Sexual Appetite: Love Hormone Produced During Sex Decreases Appetite And Stops Binge Eating

A Peek Inside Berlin’s Queer Club Scene Before Hitler Destroyed It |

Bisexual women don’t want to be your sex ‘unicorn’ | Fusion

Why I Still Don’t Give Blowjobs (Most of the Time) | VICE | United States

The 5 Best Sex Positions for When It’s Hot as Balls Outside | Women’s Health

7 Bizarre and Ridiculous Theories About What’s Supposed to Cause Lesbianism | Alternet

The Only Poly People You’ll Ever Date — Medium

Self-proclaimed ‘sex geeks’

Why Women Like BDSM: An Erotica Writer Explains Why So Many Women Are Into Kink | Glamour

The Bisexual Dilemma: Grief And The Loss Of Gay And Lesbian Privilege

Nutella-filled penis cakes from 626 Night Market are here | Metro News

How to Put the Adventure Back In Your Sex Life | Senior Planet

I was raped three times. I knew all of my attackers. And I never told the police | Toronto Life

Male escorts are making crazy money at the RNC | New York Post

Foreplay Ideas | POPSUGAR Love & Sex

Why This ‘Orgasm’ Clothing Range Is Making Female Sexual Pleasure A Hot Topic

‘Myths of rape should be dispelled,’ says judge in Mandi Gray case | Toronto Star

Are you promiscuous? Ideal number of partners for men and and women revealed (and they aren’t the same!)

Westworld: How Will HBO’s New Sci-Fi Thriller Depict Future Sex with Robots? | Future of Sex Future of Sex

Drugs Stop Spread of HIV, Even Without Condoms | Sci-Tech Today

Inventor designs sex robot that’s controlled by lusty men’s grunts and groans

Here’s The One Foolproof Thing That Makes You Better At Sex – Maxim

Infographic: Women’s Reasons For Becoming Sex Workers — Sex And Psychology

THE NIGHTSTAND, Dos and Don’ts of Make-Up Sex