May 25

Retiring from Sex City

Sex City fans, guests and friends,

I feel like I have been standing in a threshold with you for the 8+ years I’ve been participating in the show. You know that moment? We both know there’s something real here, there’s a connection—and we don’t want to let it go.

But the time comes. We’ve had a great time, we’ve felt alive and in love. But it is time to close the door.

I have decided to leave Sex City, to close the door on one of the most memorable and fulfilling activities of my life.

To the many talented people who I have been lucky enough to team with—thank you.

To the countless guests who have shared stories with me, who have helped us challenge and change the way people talk about sex, sexuality and gender—thank you.

To CIUT, a marvellous achievement in community spirit that has the junk to host a weekly show about sex, sexuality and gender—thank you.
To anyone who has ever listened in to those guests I chose to present—thank you.
Sex City is a broadcasting institution. Nobody (un)covers sex like us. I’m honoured to have been a part of it.

I may be about to walk down your steps, away from a closing door, but know I’ll be listening for you. And to you.

May 24

Sex Stories We Love: Til Death Do Us Wank, Al Fresco Adventures, & Switch It Up

How are you doing during this year’s #MasturbationMonth? Are you enjoying yourself? Trying new things? Learning about your body? Talking about it with friends? Maybe you’re talking about other things related to sex. You know, like the many tales to be told in this week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly!

Check out stories on Til Death Do Us Want, Goodbye, Old Friend, That Look, Al Fresco Adventures, Three Little Words? and Switch It Up.

May 17

Sex Stories We Love: Ring Around the Randy, Problems with Pleasure, No Free Lunches & More!

It would be easy to fill this week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly with #MasturbationMonth goodness, but there are so many other great bits of sex news out there this go around!

Check out stories on Ring Around the Randy, Problems with Pleasure?, Time to Reboot, The World of Porn, Sex Talk is An Important Part…, and No Free Lunches.


May 03

Sex Stories We Love: Self Love & Silliness, All Hail Sex Nerds, Animal Instincts & More!

It is one of my favourite times of year: #MasturbationMonth! Give yourselves a round of applause for being super sex positive! Well, clap when you can. All month we will feature stories about self-love, along with all of the awesome stories we love to find.

On this week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly, check out stories on Self-Love and Silliness, All Hail Sex Nerds, Sex Work Understanding Wanted, Mind the Orgasm Gap, What to do With a Three-hour Wait, and Animal Instincts.

Apr 26

Sex Stories We Love: Stop Stealthing, Considering Compatibility, the Parent Trap & More!

This week in Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly we’re going to have to look at some hard truths. Let’s face it, sex isn’t always easy. In fact, it rarely is. But there are ways we can try to make it better.

Check out stories on Stop Stealthing, Different Matters At Hand, Considering Compatibility, Acknowledging Guilt, Not a Shillelagh and The Parent Trap.

Apr 19

Sex Stories We Love: Hot and Not, STDiscussion, Man of Steel & More!

One of the most important factors that improves our understanding of sex, sexuality and gender is establishing visibility. It might be literal or figurative, but this week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly show that making issues known will always make forward movement possible.

Check out stories on Hot and Not, Transition of Understanding, STDiscussion, Sex and Parenting 101, Man of Steel and Furry Fallout.

Apr 18

Toronto International Porn Festival this week!

Toronto International Porn Festival—this week!

From April 20 to 23, 2017, this 4-day festival dedicated to adult film will empower, celebrate, and offer a platform for people of all genders, sexualities, bodies and pleasures to discover progressive and positive erotic films.

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The Best of the Last Decade: Toronto International P*rn Festival Review.
Thursday April 20 9:30pm at the Hot Docs Ted Rogers Cinema 506 Bloor St W. Toronto
The finest films from the first ten years of the Feminist P*rn Awards. A specially curated selection of our favorite films submitted to the FPAs from 2006-2015.
Friday April 21 7pm at the Hot Docs Ted Rogers Cinema 506 Bloor St W. Toronto
Sex is almost always unpredictable. This curated selection of films submitted for 2017 peers into alternative surprising narratives of sex and lust.

The Kinkier Side of Lust
Friday April 21 9:30pm at the Hot Docs Ted Rogers Cinema 506 Bloor St W. Toronto
These films illustrate the unconventional side of lust, pleasure, and sex. We witness how, with courage, our true selves can emerge into public spaces.

Digital Play X – VR p*rn gallery
Saturday April 22 1-8pm at the Super Wonder Gallery   584 College St
An immersive virtual reality p*rn experience surrounded by a diversity of classic shorts from the Toronto International P*rn Festival.

VR: Erotic films by Lightsouthern and FiveStar  1-8pm

Panel:  Class In Session: Are sex workers and adult film producers the new educators?  Many people learn about sex from adult films.  Performers and producers have acknowledged this fact, actively taking on the role as sex educators and feminist, gender and body awareness advocates. Sex workers and producers  will illuminate how adult content as education can be empowering or problematic.  2pm

Panel:  Sex Workers and Performers Speak For Themselves:  Many academics and activists speak about the destructiveness of sex work and performing on camera without hearing from and valuing the experiences of the workers. This panel will unpack the myths and assumptions about sex work. Hear diverse stories from folks in the industry and learn what draws them to the profession, what keeps them, and how you can be an ally. Collaboration with SlutWalk.  3:30pm

Toronto International P*rn Festival Awards Gala
Sunday April 23 7pm at the Great Hall 1087 Queen St W, Toronto
Mingle with your favorite performers and directors as they vie for awards at the historic Great Hall. With short clips of the year’s most impressive films and stimulating live entertainment, the festival finishes in style with a sexy gala like no other.


Hope to see you there,

Toronto International P*rn Festival & Good For Her

​​Generously sponsored by NJOY, LELO, Aslan Leather and more!

Apr 10

My Next Sex City—April 11—Sexy Archives! Carolyn Yates! Kevin Moroso!

Tune in, 11pm – midnight on TUESDAY APRIL 11 to CIUT 89.5FM in the Toronto area or stream live online!

Apr 05

Sex Stories We Love: Beware – Con Condoms, Reinventing Sex Ed, Freeing Pleasure & More!

This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly focuses on sex ed. Again. Why? But it really needs to improve and I’m going to write on it frequently until it does! Part of this sex ed focus is going to be contributing to STD Awareness Month throughout April. It would be great if there were no more stigma about STDs and STIs, and that is only going to come with better sex ed.

Check out stories on Beware – Con Condoms!, Learning New Language, Reinventing Sex Ed, Freeing Pleasure, Never Stop Learning, and Icon Lives On.

Mar 29

Sex Stories We Love: Super Secret Sex, Have a Seat, Some Privacy Please & More!

Do we keep sex too secret? Are we not secretive enough? What’s the big secret anyway? This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly explores the theme of our quiet and sometimes not-so-quiet treatment of all things sexual.

Check out stories on Super Secret Sex, Walkin’, Talkin’. Comin’, Have a Seat, Some Privacy Please, Get the Glow and No Hiding Our Bodies.

Mar 25

The Technology of the Long-distance Kiss—My latest on Future of Sex!

A kiss is such an intimate, loving and sexual expression. What would you do if the person you really want to lay lips on was far away?

Would you use a device that transmits your lip lock to your partner?

People have been working on long-distance kissing appliances for a while now. Check out the progress in The Technology of the Long-distance Kiss—my latest on Future of Sex!

Mar 22

Sex Stories We Love: A Bold Statement, Price of Beauty, Sounds of Pain & More!

There are lots of common sexual dilemmas that we deal with. And then there are the extraordinary situations! This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly looks at some aspects of the world of sex that not everybody will encounter…but maybe they will have some resonance with you.

Check out stories on A Bold Statement, Prison Sex or Food, Price of Beauty, Too Much Time Spent on This, Hug a Therapist, Sounds of Pain.

Mar 15

Sex Stories We Love: The New Submission, All Work & No Play, & Sex and Death

Sex is part of the world around us and the world within us. So many factors influence our ability to pursue and enjoy pleasure. Some we can control, some we cannot. This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly consider just some of these influences and how they might fit into your world.

Check out stories in The New Submissions, More Than A Liplock, Reconciling Fantasy, All Work & No Play, Sex & Death, and Grey Matter.

Mar 12

Sex City—March 14—Guest Host Tynan Rhea! With Tracy Tief, Tumaina, Isabel Nantaba

Tune in, 11pm – midnight on TUESDAY MARCH 14 to CIUT 89.5FM in the Toronto area or stream live online!

Mar 08

Sex Stories We Love: Another Consent Collapse, Poly Mono Divide, Penis Party & More!

It is impossible to avoid awkward, uncomfortable and sometimes maddening situations when you’re dealing with sex. That is inevitable. However, how we and society-at-large deal with these situations is key. This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly explores some good ways…and some bad.

Check out stories on Another Consent Collapse, What’s a Friend For, Poly Mono Divide, Just Like Any Other Illness, Penis Party, Footie Fun.