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Celebrate Pride by learning some of our history and herstory of those who have been fighting for social justice in the name of all queers in The Right Side of History: 100 Years of LGBTQI Activism. Adrian Brooks tells the stories from before Stonewall and including that historical night in New York City, including this exclusive excerpt by Miss Major Griffin-Gracy. Ground Zero by Miss Major Griffin-Gracy I was never a fan of Judy Garland until I heard that she’d died. But then they played some songs that she did, and they moved me to tears. I couldn’t keep my nerves together …

Best Sex Writing of the Year—Coming Soon!

January 28, 2015

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My latest Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly!

December 23, 2014

Writing for Kinkly has been one of my favourite things this year—especially the Sex Stories We Love columns. That said, I am delighted that this is my last piece of official work due this calendar year and I am enjoying the break. But I’ve already got some stories stockpiled for SSWL, the blog and other works, coming soon in 2015! Check out my latest Sex Stories We Love featuring LEGO! Dornan! Fetish Photos! Furries! Infidelity! Language Transition Petition!

Racial Inclusivity and Secrets of the Sex Masters

November 23, 2014

I’ve been pretty quiet here on Sex in Words lately (more on that soon) because I’ve been very busy with lots of exciting, rewarding (and some disappointing) projects. One of the good ones was having my writing appear in Secrets of the Sex Masters, an excellent new book by Carl Frankel. I was fortunate enough to be pen the chapter on anal sex —a true honour for me. The book is an excellent resource and I do recommend you pick it up! At the same time, an issue with the book has come to light, one that I am ashamed to …

Pegging as Violence?

October 6, 2014

I’ve been intrigued by the concept of PTSD and “violent” sex since reading Mac McClelland’s work. However, this piece, while very interesting, had me confused right from the beginning because I feel a part of the narrative has been left out. Since when has pegging been, automatically, equated with violent sex? She does address this at the end of the piece, but it really seems something was cut or left out near the beginning. Or is that how she really felt about strap-on sex, that it had to be about domination, that that penetration had to be about violence? It …

Ban Fraternities Because of Sexual (and other) Violence

September 25, 2014

Being someone who is not at all into “joining” or “belonging,” the idea of fraternities just doesn’t do anything for me. Now, after reading this piece about the alarming rates of sexual assault and other notable transgressions, I am all for doing away with this stupid tradition. I recently ranted to my special lady friend about the emphasis placed on frosh week at universities and colleges—why don’t people just go to school to learn? Same with frats. Go to class, go to the library, go out with friends. Don’t rely on some group of people to somehow prop you up. …

Sex and Politics

Why Biphobia Exists and How to Repel it with Humour

September 24, 2014September 24, 2014

For too long, bisexuality has been seen as experimentation, a stop-gap to coming out or downright non-existent. Why? Because supposedly smart and intelligent people keep telling us so. The Weird and Troubling History of Bisexuality Studies Fortunately, ideas are changing. Biphobia is still pretty rampant, but if you come up against it, here are some clever ways to combat. I have to remember some of these: The 21 Realest Tumblr Posts On Bisexuality

Sex and Politics / Sex Health

Historical Birth Control is Hysterical; Current Access is No Laughing Matter

September 24, 2014September 25, 2014

Weasel testicles, beaver testicles, crocodile dung, pig intestines, onion juice, cola???? You know it had to be men who thought of all these ridiculous methods of birth control. It is wonderful that we have science to help us understand and ensure a woman’s right to contraceptive control over her body. Too bad not all women have those options. WTFP?!—Where’s the Family Planning is looking to help those women.

Ms Naughty: Considering Her Gender

September 24, 2014

Ms. Naughty, someone I had the pleasure of meeting and chatting with at this year’s Feminist Porn Awards and Conference has penned a strong, personal statement on how “cisgendered” just does not feel right for her, even if that would “seem” to be the label our current identification system would use for her. She discusses her gender expression and refutation of gender roles, while at the same time, incorporating a significant amount of her personality and comfort into conversation. It is a truly compelling read. Gender continues to be an evolving conversation and I think Ms. Naughty has just broadened that talk …

Becoming Belle Knox Busts Bullshit Beliefs of Porn

September 23, 2014

If you haven’t seen the documentary Becoming Belle Knox yet, well, click back there and watch it. It is remarkable and one of the best comments on pornography you’re going to find. If you’re not up for watching just yet, this analysis of the doc by Samantha Allen is a great refutation of the foolish thoughts commonly spread about porn.