Mar 22

Sex News! I love it! March 22, 2015

What I learned from a male sex surrogate

“That Would Be a Great Sex Toy!”: How New Age Crystal Dildos Changed One Sex Shop Worker’s Life

12 Gay Sex Positions Heterosexuals Should Try

Here’s What We’re All Thinking About Sex, From the 20-Something Sex Educators Who Know

Opening the Door to the Deliciously Disabled: The Importance of Having Accessibility in Sexual Spaces

‘Cum For Bigfoot’: The Rise, Fall, and Future of Monster Erotica

What do Asexuals Think About our Sex-Obsessed World?

I’m married. I’m a woman. I’m addicted to porn.

Sex Work Can Be Empowering, But The Sex Industry Isn’t

HuffPost Love And Sex Podcast: Inside New York’s Chemistry Sex Party

5 Pros And Cons Of Being A Plus-Size Dominatrix, Because BDSM Is Not The Shocking Lifestyle Choice It Once Was

Scientific Advice For A Better Sex Life: Sleep, And Watch Porn

Why I Haven’t Had Sex in 10 Years

Boomer Banks on his future

I watched the Randy Quaid porno so you don’t have to

How to Survive a Dry Spell Without Lowering Your Standards

French dating site taken to court for promoting adultery

6 Sex Terms That DEFINITELY Don’t Mean What You Think They Mean

Sex, porn and mythical genitalia: Girls at single-sex schools aren’t that innocent

Better Sleep for a Better Sex Life

How 2 Transgender Porn Stars (And 1 Queer Producer) Are Changing Porn Forever

8 Secrets From Behind the Scenes of a Porn Shoot

Strip clubs closing due to lack of demand across Canada, says industry insider

Jan 20

My latest Sex Stories We Love! Frotteurism, How Not to Clean Your Sex Toy, Safe Literature & More!

Writing about sex—particularly sex in the news—just feels so damn right. It really is what I wish I could do all time! Fortunately, I’ve got my little slice of the pie over at Kinkly—and here it is!

My latest Sex Stories We Love dips into frotteurism, dlido cleaning gone wrong, condoms in erotica, strip club commandments, the sexiness of creativity and bipolar disorder in relationships.

Read Here!

Jan 10

Sex Ed and Storytelling on this week’s Sex City!

It was a pleasure to welcome some fantastic individuals to Sex City this week! I had great talks with Sunny Megatron about her wonderful sex ed show Sex with Sunny Megatron. Brian Finch told us about how storytelling has greatly helped his work as an HIV advocate and how he is launching Dare! Stories We Thought We’d Never Tell. Finally, Tim Bartsch shared the story behind the creation of his story Southern Time.


Dec 23

My latest Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly!

Writing for Kinkly has been one of my favourite things this year—especially the Sex Stories We Love columns. That said, I am delighted that this is my last piece of official work due this calendar year and I am enjoying the break. But I’ve already got some stories stockpiled for SSWL, the blog and other works, coming soon in 2015!

Check out my latest Sex Stories We Love featuring LEGO! Dornan! Fetish Photos! Furries! Infidelity! Language Transition Petition!

Nov 26

Dressed to Thrill: Bringing Cosplay Into the Bedroom—My latest on Kinkly!

I’m so happy this article has come out on Kinkly! Cosplay is such a fun topic to research, and bridges my interests in nerdy culture that I explore on another project, Flock of Nerds, and sex and sexuality.

Check it out!

Dressed to Thrill: Bringing Cosplay Into the Bedroom

Don’t forget to catch The Night is Dark and Full of Tassels: GAME OF THRONES BURLESQUE III this Saturday, November 29!

Nov 11

My Latest Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly! Drones, Cum, G-Strings and More!

I wanted to give us all a little reprieve from the Ghomeshi saga with my latest Sex Stories We Love over on Kinkly. So instead, we’re talkin’ drone porn, confusing sex euphemisms, surprise vibrators, artsy strip clubs and the secrets to Starbucks success. A week for the lighter side of sex, folks!

Oct 25

Call for Submissions: Feminist Porn Awards

Now the longest running celebration of erotica focused on women and marginalized people, The Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards have been celebrating feminist smut for nine sexy years.

Nominations for the 10th Annual Feminist Porn Awards open Thursday October 23rd 2014. Contact to submit your work!

**You can find more information on the 2014 Ninth Annual Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards HERE**

But wait, what is feminism doing getting into bed with porn? At Good For Her, we are feminists and we sell and rent porn. In 2006 we decided that it’s not enough to criticize adult films for not adequately representing the diversity of women’s, trans folk’s- and in many cases, men’s – sexuality. So we decided to do something about it. As porn star and performance artist Annie Sprinkle famously said, “The answer to bad porn isn’t no porn…it’s to try and make better porn!”  Good For Her couldn’t agree more.  We acknowledge that what one person finds “bad porn”, another may enjoy.  We also believe that erotic fantasy is powerful, and that those who do not identify with the mainstream offerings deserve to put their dreams and desires on film, too.  As feminists and sex-positive people, we want to showcase and honour those who are creating erotic media with a feminist sensibility that differs from what porn typically offers.

Good For Her wants porn to be held to a high standard. We all deserve to see artistic expressions that celebrate the diversity of who we are in all our glory, and artists deserve to have their work recognized. For these reasons, and many more, we are honoured to be the presenter and founders of the Annual Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards.

Do the Feminist Porn Awards discriminate against men?

Absolutely not. We know that there are a lot of men who are tired of the same formulaic porn without much choice. We love the men who appreciate a different perspective on porn, and we love the men who make porn that celebrates the ladies, and we love it when men get what we are doing!

What makes a movie a Feminist Porn Award winner? 

In order to be considered for a Feminist Porn Award, the movie/short/website must meet at least two of the following criteria:

1) Women and/or traditionally marginalized people were involved in the direction, production and/or conception of the work.

2) The work depicts genuine pleasure, agency and desire for all performers, especially women and traditionally marginalized people.
3) The work expands the boundaries of sexual representation on film, challenges stereotypes and presents a vision that sets the content apart from most mainstream pornography.  This may include depicting a diversity of desires, types of people, bodies, sexual practices, and/or an anti-racist or anti-oppression framework throughout the production.

And of course it must be hot!

Overall, Feminist Porn Award winners tend to be movies that consider a potentially female or trans viewer from start to finish.  This means that you are more likely to see active desire and consent, real orgasms, and women and/or trans folk taking control of their own fantasies (even when that fantasy is to hand over that control).

When are the next Feminist Porn Awards? 

The dates are April 16-17, 2015 with events enhancing the celebration before and after.

The Public Provocative Porn screening and panel discussion will take place on April 16th at the Bloor Cinema.

The Gala Awards Ceremony will be held on April 17th at the Capitol Theatre.

Plus, you can attend Tristan Taormino’s Feminist Porn Conference on April 18-19th and join us afterwards at ASLAN Leather’s SWITCH post-FPA porn party. We dare you to enjoy all the fun all week!
I’d love to sponsor/write about the Feminist Porn Awards?  How do I do that? 

Please click here for sponorship or media inquiries.

I’d enjoy looking at more pictures of the Feminist Porn Awards.  Where might I do that?

Why not take a look at our Facebook or Flickr page?

You must have a video or something fun where I can learn all about the entire history of the Feminist Porn Awards.  

We sure do!

Feminist P*rn Awards Retrospective from good for her on Vimeo.

Oct 11

Please Support Sex City and CIUT—Fall Membership Drive!

Once again, myself and the Sex City crew are proud to support our home station CIUT 89.5FM in the annual Fall Membership Drive. We are pleased to be a part of The New Sound of Your City! Sex City is a unique programme, being the only sex radio talk show in Toronto and one of the few in Canada. Our reach is wide, to millions of people from Barrie to Buffalo, Kitchener to Cobourg.

But Sex City is not just a Toronto show. We feature guests, news and events from all around the world. Just last month we connected with a guest from Australia! Sex City is an integral part of Toronto, but we are also a key sex media outlet across the world.

Please become a member and donate to CIUT today (remember to mark Sex City as your favourite show) OR call in and donate during our membership drive show on Tuesday October 21! We’ll feature some of our favourite Sex City friends to really pump up this drive.