Sex Education

How Men Want Intimacy in Bed

October 10, 2014

I was completely turned off by the title of this piece (a clever trick by Thomas Fiffer!) and almost didn’t read it, but I am glad I did! These three things that men want in bed is personally relatable and, I think, relevant to a lot of other blokes out there. Why are these three things not discussed by men? Because they move into levels of intimacy men think they can’t/shouldn’t experience and their partners think the same way. Intimacy can be a great connection…which can equal better sex for all.

Sex Education / Sex Health

Should We Talk About the Fact That Anal Sex Might Hurt?—My Latest on Kinkly!

October 9, 2014

My most recent article on Kinkly “Should We Talk About the Fact That Anal Sex Might Hurt?” is a consideration of pain potential. Of course, we celebrate the joys and pleasures of sex—anal included—but should we also bring to the discussion the potential for a wide range of unpleasant sensation. It could be awesome, it could be okay, it could be uncomfortable, it could be awful. It may or may not have something to do with what you’re doing and it may or may not have something to do with what your partner is doing. Or does prefacing discussion with …

Down and Dirty: DIY Porn Workshop

October 8, 2014October 8, 2014

Down and Dirty: DIY Porn WorkshopThe University of Toronto Sexual Education Centre welcomes the Feminist Porn Awards and Good For Her’s workshop on creating your own sexy films. Fabulous Feminist Porn Award winning filmmaker Sonya Barnett teaches you how to make quality porn on a limited budget. Workshops by Shine Louise Houston and Jiz Lee (Pink and White), Clark Matthews and Mia Gimp (Krutch) and Tobi Hill-Meyer (Handbasket Productions) discuss how to respectfully recruit, shoot and market films including people of colour, trans folk and people with disabilities. All welcome, including allies. Saturday November 1-2, 10am-5pm Hart House, University of …

Sex Education / Sex Events

Prostate Pleasure Workshop to benefit Movember!

October 8, 2014

My Prostate Pleasure workshop returns for a third year! This time we’ll be hosted by Good for Her. Be sure to get your tickets early! Prostate Pleasure Workshop to benefit Movember! Date: Wednesday November 05, 2014 Time : 7:00 pm to 9:30 pm Good for Her 175 Harbord St., Toronto Price : $33.00 CAD Have you checked out the hottest spot in town? The P-Spot! Prostate massage is a sexy and intimate way to bring yourself or your partner to new heights of sexual pleasure—while at the same time gaining some health benefits! This workshop covers anatomy, techniques, toys …

All About Breasts!

October 7, 2014October 7, 2014

I love it when some of my favourite people get together! Check out Dr. Jessica O’Reilly talking all about breasts on Dr. Trina Read‘s site VivaXO! Talk about a great pair! (terrible joke of the day, done!)

Pegging as Violence?

October 6, 2014

I’ve been intrigued by the concept of PTSD and “violent” sex since reading Mac McClelland’s work. However, this piece, while very interesting, had me confused right from the beginning because I feel a part of the narrative has been left out. Since when has pegging been, automatically, equated with violent sex? She does address this at the end of the piece, but it really seems something was cut or left out near the beginning. Or is that how she really felt about strap-on sex, that it had to be about domination, that that penetration had to be about violence? It …

Sex Education

The Days of Our Lives When Dating Poly

October 6, 2014

Is this story so much about losing a partner to polyamory or losing a partner to bad manners?

Erotic Imagery Writing Workshop: ft. Jon Pressick

October 5, 2014

Erotic Imagery Writing Workshop: ft. Jon Pressick WHEN: November 2, 2014 @ 4:00 pm – 6:00 pm COST: Couples $50, Ladies $20 On Sunday November 2nd, enjoy a special afternoon event featuring of books from the Oasis library, erotic imagery and writing. Join award-winning sex journalist and curator of the Oasis Erotic Library – Jon Pressick -for an arousing and playful workshop on erotic imagery in literature and penning your sexiest fantasies! The workshop will be held in the dungeon from 4:00pm-6:00pm and is included in the cost of admission to the club. Single women and couples are welcome to attend-no writing experience …

Sex Education / Sex Research

The Scientific Interest in Sex

October 3, 2014

Does your body shape indicate what type of sex (and sex parts) you have? I just came across this older piece by one of my favourite sex writer Kate Hakala. One part of me is always a bit a surprised that some of these things are actually being observed and studied. But the other part of me looks at findings and correlations and thinks, “damn good thing people are studying this!” We are still learning so much about sex and sexuality. I remain shocked that these took such a backseat in terms of study for so long. Of course, we …

Sex Community / Sex Education

The Couple and Their Sex Dolls

October 1, 2014October 2, 2014

For some users, sex dolls are just really big sex toys, right? People get really freaked out by the idea of others using sex dolls for pleasure. This is the first time I’ve heard of a couple enjoying them and I find it good and fascinating. There is some complexity, but really, all of sex is complex.