Aug 07

My next Sex City—August 23! Vanessa de Largie! Jerry Barnett! Luna Matatas!

  • Vanessa de Largie is an Australian sex writer and columnist whose work focuses on feminism, fierce female sexuality and women’s issues
  • Luna Matatas will tell us about her sex education work, with a particular focus on CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)
  • Jerry Barnett will delve into the controversial state of porn in the UK by telling us about his book Porn Panic! Sex and Censorship in the UK

Tune in, 11pm – midnight on TUESDAY AUGUST 23 to CIUT 89.5FM in the Toronto area or stream live online!

Aug 01

Can Brave New World’s Sensual Cinema Turn Us on Today? My latest on Future of Sex!

It was a lot of fun to revisit one of my favourite books—through a different lens for Future of Sex! When I read Brave New World in high school, I do not recall sex being such a significant focus of our studies. This isn’t really surprising, we delved much more into the ideas around soma than we did The Feelies. However, the thought of a moviegoing experience that included physical sensation seems particularly prescient considering our current more to 4D, VR and beyond.

Check out Can Brave New World’s Sensual Cinema Turn Us on Today?

Jul 29

Listen to my latest Sex City with Andre Shakti, Asa Akira and Kay Brandt!

I was delighted to welcome three guests to Sex City who you might know better for their work in the porn industry, but who are venturing out with other projects!


Jul 26

Seven Deadly Sex Sins: Pride


We all want to think positively of ourselves and we all want to be acknowledged for our abilities. And that is great! Self-confidence and pride is a valuable and important thing. But it is key to not let it all go too far to your head so that you stop listening to your partner or lover—especially in bed.

Thank you for reading this series of the 7 Deadly Sex Sins and many thanks to Cara Sutra for running these posts on her site!

Check out Pride – Swallow It & Listen

Past posts in the series:

Envy: Is the Ass Greener on the Other Side?

Greed: All the Want, All the Time

Sloth: Have Great Sex…When You Get Around To It

Gluttony: Is Your Bed Too Big?

LUST: Between a Crotch and a Hard Place

Wrath: Maybe We Should Go to Bed Angry

Jul 24

Sex News! I love it! July 24, 2016

Sex Stories We Love: Never Too Old, Powering On, & Gearing Up

Sex Industry Entrepreneurs on VR Porn, AI Sex Partners and More – CraveOnline » This Bi Life: I Don’t Feel Bi Enough

One frightening live sex show and the state of 360 video

Who Wants Freebies? | Let’s Talk Free Sex Toys, Goody Bags & More

Penis Measuring Contests in History That Got Out of Hand

Watching These People Orgasm Is A Startlingly Intimate Experience (NSFW)

How (And Why) To Tell Your Doctor About Your Kinky Sex Games | YourTango

Why regular sex can help you stay slim and stop you binge-eating  | Daily Mail Online

Sexual Appetite: Love Hormone Produced During Sex Decreases Appetite And Stops Binge Eating

A Peek Inside Berlin’s Queer Club Scene Before Hitler Destroyed It |

Bisexual women don’t want to be your sex ‘unicorn’ | Fusion

Why I Still Don’t Give Blowjobs (Most of the Time) | VICE | United States

The 5 Best Sex Positions for When It’s Hot as Balls Outside | Women’s Health

7 Bizarre and Ridiculous Theories About What’s Supposed to Cause Lesbianism | Alternet

The Only Poly People You’ll Ever Date — Medium

Self-proclaimed ‘sex geeks’

Why Women Like BDSM: An Erotica Writer Explains Why So Many Women Are Into Kink | Glamour

The Bisexual Dilemma: Grief And The Loss Of Gay And Lesbian Privilege

Nutella-filled penis cakes from 626 Night Market are here | Metro News

How to Put the Adventure Back In Your Sex Life | Senior Planet

I was raped three times. I knew all of my attackers. And I never told the police | Toronto Life

Male escorts are making crazy money at the RNC | New York Post

Foreplay Ideas | POPSUGAR Love & Sex

Why This ‘Orgasm’ Clothing Range Is Making Female Sexual Pleasure A Hot Topic

‘Myths of rape should be dispelled,’ says judge in Mandi Gray case | Toronto Star

Are you promiscuous? Ideal number of partners for men and and women revealed (and they aren’t the same!)

Westworld: How Will HBO’s New Sci-Fi Thriller Depict Future Sex with Robots? | Future of Sex Future of Sex

Drugs Stop Spread of HIV, Even Without Condoms | Sci-Tech Today

Inventor designs sex robot that’s controlled by lusty men’s grunts and groans

Here’s The One Foolproof Thing That Makes You Better At Sex – Maxim

Infographic: Women’s Reasons For Becoming Sex Workers — Sex And Psychology

THE NIGHTSTAND, Dos and Don’ts of Make-Up Sex

Jul 20

Sex Stories We Love: Never Too Old, Powering On, Gearing Up & More!

We all know change is always happening. Sometimes it is hard to accept, other times it is welcomed with open arms. Of course, the world of sex is not immune to this and that we explore different aspects of changes in sex in this week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly.

Check out stories on Never to Old, Powering On, Peek at You?, Gearing Up, A Bad Name?, Free For All.

Jul 18

My Next Sex City—July 26—Asa Akira! Kay Brandt! Andre Shakti!

Coming up on my next Sex City, we will speak to three people with high profiles in the porn industry who are stepping out and pursuing some different work and artistic expressions!

On TUESDAY JULY 26, I will welcome some awesome folks to the Sex City studios at 11PM ET on 89.5FM in the Toronto area and CIUT.FM streaming live!

Tune in, 11pm – midnight on TUESDAY JULY 26 to CIUT 89.5FM in the Toronto area or stream live online!

Jul 17

Sex News! I love it! July 17, 2016

Sex Stories We Love: Carnal Concerns, Erogenous Exploration, & Lip Lock Learning

You Can Now Insert Marijuana Into Your Butt To Have Anal Sex 

Casual Sex: Everyone Is Doing It 

Video: Your Sex Drive Is Normal 

Erotica Game Found on Vintage Mac Would Still be NSFW 

Narcissists and Psychopaths Love to Stay Friends with Their Exes 

Too Old for Sex? Not at This Nursing Home 

Bedsider – 5 Myths About Pulling Out

GOP Platform Identifies Pornography As A National Public Health Crisis

Dominatrixes Share the Most Annoying Things Their Slaves Do 

I’m depressed, but I still have a sexuality 

Kenya looks to tech to break sex-ed taboos 

Close Encounters of the Casual Kind: A Pokémon Go sex craze is sweeping the internet 

Having Multiple Devoted Boyfriends Is Wonderful, Polyandrous Women Confirm 

Will Eating Pineapple Really Make Your Vagina Taste Better?

The 8 Most Misunderstood Things About BDSM 

Why So Many Guys in Relationships Pay for Sex 

How Your Eyes May Unknowingly Reveal Your Sexual Intentions 

Colorado’s Birth Control Experiment Proves The Whole Country Needs Free BC 

AVN – Offers Free Memberships to Republican Delegates

13 Fetishes You Didn’t Know Existed 

Ashley Madison’s New Ads Show A Very Different Side Of Cheating 

The Dangers Of Dating Faux-Feminist Men 

Don’t Be Catfished! 

The Vibrator of the Future Won’t Vibrate 

Trendy new massage focuses on lady’s private parts but, at £250, pleasure comes at a price

Why We Need a Dating Bot 

I Tried the Latest in Condom Technology and It Went Shockingly Well 

Is this the end of bisexuality? 

Red States Love “Cuckold,” “Mature” Porn 

When Everyone Can Be ‘Queer,’ Is Anyone? 

Publishing’s Dirty Secret: erotic fiction in the 21st century market 

VR Porn Sites Offering Free Virtual Reality Headsets 

Mick Blue, Anikka Albrite Discuss Intimacy Amidst Stardom

Why Your Sex Life Got Boring (And What You Can Do About It) 

5 Things You Need to Know Before Swinging 

The One Real Way to Get Better at Sex 

Masturbating more can dramatically reduce risk of prostate cancer 

How Much Sex ‘Should’ We Be Having?

How To Be A More Mindful Partner During Sex 

Jul 06

Sex Stories We Love: Time Well Spent, Summer Lovin’, HeteroHashtagFail & More!

It feels hard to believe that 2016 is halfway done. It has been a helluva year so far, one I think many folks in the sex communities might want to forget. But here’s hoping this latter part of the year is a good one, full of love, fun and lots of great sex stories.

This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly is a round-up much like 2016 has been so far. The good, the bad, the ugly and the sexy.

Check out stories on Alcohol and Consent: Shaken, not Stirred, Time Well Spent?, Summer Lovin’, HeteroHashtagFail, Short Changed, & Building Bodies.

Jul 03

Sex News! I love it! July 3, 2016

The Seven Deadly Sex Sins: Wrath: Maybe We Should Go To Bed Angry

Sex Stories We Love: Silent Sex, Quite the Mouthful, & Setting Sex Positivity Straight

First Large-Scale Study of Women’s Pleasure Finds 12 Ways to Give An Orgasm

Studying coral’s moonlight sex offers hope for dying reefs

The body as amusement park: a history of masturbation

Stop turning down men under six feet tall, matchmaker says

Study reveals which TV show has the most nudity

What does consent look like when you’re wasted?

Five Scientific Facts You Should Know About Porn

The private reason some bisexuals don’t come out

In Bed With Married Women: How to Make a Woman Come–Even If You Are That Woman. AKA Things I Learned from Science, Sex, and The Ladies

Vintage photographs of dominatrixes

Jacky St. James Blurs the Lines Between Porn and Softcore

Stoya on James Deen and Fixing the Porn Industry

Boris Johnson’s Brexit speech makes its way onto PornHub

Strippers at the Met

New Condom Changes Colors When Exposed to STDs

Ray Kurzweil’s Sex Predictions: Remote Touching, Body Swapping, and More

Bald Men Are More Attractive According To Science

Americans’ Interest in Consensual Non-Monogamy is on the Rise

People Are Mocking ‘Heterosexual Pride Day’ For Good Reason

Men’s Fitness Magazine Has Non-Consensual Dating Tips

Dominatrix Explains How ‘BDSM Can Be A Form Of Meditation’

Is Online Porn Making Us Kinkier IRL?

Behind The Scenes Of Porn’s Virtual Reality Experiment

Infographic: Women’s Reasons For Becoming Sex Workers

Age Gap Relationships – How Much Is Too Much?

Sex Toy Trends: Meet The Touch-Free Clit Suction Sex Toys

Kevin Kelly: We’ll have realistic virtual-reality sex in under five years

Jun 30

Seven Deadly Sex Sins: Wrath


This was a hard one to write. Anger, is a challenging subject to deal with in relationships, sexual or otherwise. This month’s addition to the Seven Deadly Sex Sins series on Cara Sutra explores sexual wrath. But is it possible to turn wrath into a possible? Can releasing angry energy be turned into something that compliments sex?

Check out Maybe We Should Go to Bed Angry

Past posts in the series

Envy: Is the Ass Greener on the Other Side?

Greed: All the Want, All the Time

Sloth: Have Great Sex…When You Get Around To It

Gluttony: Is Your Bed Too Big?

LUST: Between a Crotch and a Hard Place

Jun 29

Sex Stories We Love: Shhh…Fucking, Quite the Mouthful, Setting Sex Positivity Straight & More! #AdultSexEdMonth

We’re closing out this year’s #AdultSexEdMonth coverage on Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly. As always there has been a plethora of amazing content to choose from. It just proves there is always going to be so much to learn about sex!

Check out stories on Shh…Fucking, Quite the Mouthful, Don’t Crush the Reality, Setting Sex Positivity Straight, Not Sold on It and The Lengths We Go.

Jun 25

Sex News! I love it! June 26, 2016

Sex Stories We Love: Daddy Does Best, Moving Past the Past, & Accessible Action


Teens Are Being Influenced by Porn, but They Don’t Want to Be | Broadly

5 Reasons Why Female Condoms Rock My World 

Men Tend To Find Women Less Attractive If They’re More Intelligent Than Them 

Rupert Everett warns of dangers of child gender reassignment operations 

The Forgotten Fetishwear Company of 1920s Paris 

Condom-free male birth control just passed another trial, and could be on sale within 2 years

Botox As A Penis Enlargement Treatment? Doctors Have Studied It 

Ever Wonder How Long the ‘Average’ Man Lasts In Bed? Here’s the Answer!

Daniel Berger: The Science behind Women’s Sexual Desire 

The Connection Between Gut Health And Sexual Arousal

Charlie Sheen’s LELO Condoms Get the Shaft From Sex Workers, Feminist Bloggers 

Is Noisy Sex the Best Sex? Not Always | Celebration of Silent Sex

Susan Sarandon Says Sex Is The Secret To Staying Young

The curious case of Gor and BDSM 

Why Your ‘Signature Move’ Doesn’t Work for all Women

10 Ways To Make Blowjobs More Fun For EVERYONE (Yes, Really) 

The 5 most ridiculous myths about anal sex

Sex Anxieties Amongst Men And Women

No Sleep? No Sex—And a Lot More Fighting

Toronto Police Apology for Bathhouse Raids is Too Little, Too Late

How the Internet Keeps Pushing Porn’s Social Progress Forward 

Couples who divvy up household chores have best sex lives, study finds 

Dealing With A Crush When You’re In A Relationship 

Michelle Marks is dead, Brock Turner is a rapist, & men are still blaming literally every single… 

Why Write Erotic Fiction? 

Artist arrested for getting strangers to stroke her genitals 

You Weren’t Born This Way

Switzerland to open Europe’s very first ‘fellatio cafe’ 

Sex-Positive Does Not Mean Anything Goes

Jun 22

Sex Stories We Love: Daddy Does Best, Moving Past the Past, Accessible Action & More #AdultSexEdMonth

#AdultSexEdMonth rolls on! I hope you’re keeping up with so much amazing content being shared. This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinky continues the initiative with an assortment of stories highlighting the lifelong sexual learning journey we’re all on.

Check out stories on Daddy Does Best, The Why, Moving Past the Past, Accessible Action, Beyond Multiplication and Remembering Pulse.

Jun 19

Sex News! I love it! June 19, 2016

These are the victims of the Orlando night club shooting

Sex Stories We Love: #AdultSexEducation in the Stanford Sexual Assault Case

The Top 5 Sex Apps for Smart Phones

Virtual Sex: Is It Real Sex?

confessions of a demisexual

When A Condom Fails: LELO HEX

Here Are All The People Applauding The Orlando Gay Club Shooter

Oregon resident allowed to change sex from female to nonbinary | Oklahoma City – OKC –

Do Different Consumption Methods Impact Your Sexual Performance?

Kinky Sex Positions for Dominant Women – With Pictures!

The Key to Lasting Longer in Bed: Five Tips For Him

The Science Behind The Profound Power Of Holding Hands

Go forth and multiply: UK research suggests math could boost your sex life — even into your 80s

Owen Jones of the Guardian Walks Out of Segment on Orlando Shooting

Orgy and wife-swapping festival to attract 700 swingers to sleepy rural community

Nudity and naturism is ‘best way to teach sex education’ to children

Judge in Controversial Brock Turner Case Removed From New Sex Assault Case – NBC News

The Addictive Orgasm Apps Changing Sex Ed

Why don’t men have good sex toys?

What It’s Like to Work at Victoria’s Secret

Ashley Judd: We Can’t Ignore Refugees’ Sexual Health

Up Close and Personal, with Dayv and Rose Caraway

5 Ways To Snag A Unicorn For Your Threesome | Luna Matatas

What Sex Was Like in Medieval Times

President Obama just said we shouldn’t shame women for having sex

‘My favourite thing is to be hogtied’: The growing trend of stressed workers who are using BONDAGE to relax

What it’s like … for a father to teach his daughters about sexual health

The Sexiest, Most Seductive Movies Ever Made

Pornhub launches explicit audio for the visually impaired

Our Queer Children’s Heroes

Male Strip Club Employees Tell Us Their Craziest Bachelorette Party Stories

How bellhops and newsboys turned tricks in old Toronto

Why Do We Have Sex? Let’s Count The Reasons — Sex And Psychology

Where Your Dude Likes to Cum and What it Says About Him

No, People Who Have Rape Fantasies Aren’t Twisted Or Damaged