Jul 06

Sex Stories We Love: Time Well Spent, Summer Lovin’, HeteroHashtagFail & More!

It feels hard to believe that 2016 is halfway done. It has been a helluva year so far, one I think many folks in the sex communities might want to forget. But here’s hoping this latter part of the year is a good one, full of love, fun and lots of great sex stories.

This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly is a round-up much like 2016 has been so far. The good, the bad, the ugly and the sexy.

Check out stories on Alcohol and Consent: Shaken, not Stirred, Time Well Spent?, Summer Lovin’, HeteroHashtagFail, Short Changed, & Building Bodies.

Jul 03

Sex News! I love it! July 3, 2016

The Seven Deadly Sex Sins: Wrath: Maybe We Should Go To Bed Angry

Sex Stories We Love: Silent Sex, Quite the Mouthful, & Setting Sex Positivity Straight

First Large-Scale Study of Women’s Pleasure Finds 12 Ways to Give An Orgasm

Studying coral’s moonlight sex offers hope for dying reefs

The body as amusement park: a history of masturbation

Stop turning down men under six feet tall, matchmaker says

Study reveals which TV show has the most nudity

What does consent look like when you’re wasted?

Five Scientific Facts You Should Know About Porn

The private reason some bisexuals don’t come out

In Bed With Married Women: How to Make a Woman Come–Even If You Are That Woman. AKA Things I Learned from Science, Sex, and The Ladies

Vintage photographs of dominatrixes

Jacky St. James Blurs the Lines Between Porn and Softcore

Stoya on James Deen and Fixing the Porn Industry

Boris Johnson’s Brexit speech makes its way onto PornHub

Strippers at the Met

New Condom Changes Colors When Exposed to STDs

Ray Kurzweil’s Sex Predictions: Remote Touching, Body Swapping, and More

Bald Men Are More Attractive According To Science

Americans’ Interest in Consensual Non-Monogamy is on the Rise

People Are Mocking ‘Heterosexual Pride Day’ For Good Reason

Men’s Fitness Magazine Has Non-Consensual Dating Tips

Dominatrix Explains How ‘BDSM Can Be A Form Of Meditation’

Is Online Porn Making Us Kinkier IRL?

Behind The Scenes Of Porn’s Virtual Reality Experiment

Infographic: Women’s Reasons For Becoming Sex Workers

Age Gap Relationships – How Much Is Too Much?

Sex Toy Trends: Meet The Touch-Free Clit Suction Sex Toys

Kevin Kelly: We’ll have realistic virtual-reality sex in under five years

Jun 30

Seven Deadly Sex Sins: Wrath


This was a hard one to write. Anger, is a challenging subject to deal with in relationships, sexual or otherwise. This month’s addition to the Seven Deadly Sex Sins series on Cara Sutra explores sexual wrath. But is it possible to turn wrath into a possible? Can releasing angry energy be turned into something that compliments sex?

Check out Maybe We Should Go to Bed Angry

Past posts in the series

Envy: Is the Ass Greener on the Other Side?

Greed: All the Want, All the Time

Sloth: Have Great Sex…When You Get Around To It

Gluttony: Is Your Bed Too Big?

LUST: Between a Crotch and a Hard Place

Jun 29

Sex Stories We Love: Shhh…Fucking, Quite the Mouthful, Setting Sex Positivity Straight & More! #AdultSexEdMonth

We’re closing out this year’s #AdultSexEdMonth coverage on Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly. As always there has been a plethora of amazing content to choose from. It just proves there is always going to be so much to learn about sex!

Check out stories on Shh…Fucking, Quite the Mouthful, Don’t Crush the Reality, Setting Sex Positivity Straight, Not Sold on It and The Lengths We Go.

Jun 25

Sex News! I love it! June 26, 2016

Sex Stories We Love: Daddy Does Best, Moving Past the Past, & Accessible Action


Teens Are Being Influenced by Porn, but They Don’t Want to Be | Broadly

5 Reasons Why Female Condoms Rock My World 

Men Tend To Find Women Less Attractive If They’re More Intelligent Than Them 

Rupert Everett warns of dangers of child gender reassignment operations 

The Forgotten Fetishwear Company of 1920s Paris 

Condom-free male birth control just passed another trial, and could be on sale within 2 years

Botox As A Penis Enlargement Treatment? Doctors Have Studied It 

Ever Wonder How Long the ‘Average’ Man Lasts In Bed? Here’s the Answer!

Daniel Berger: The Science behind Women’s Sexual Desire 

The Connection Between Gut Health And Sexual Arousal

Charlie Sheen’s LELO Condoms Get the Shaft From Sex Workers, Feminist Bloggers 

Is Noisy Sex the Best Sex? Not Always | Celebration of Silent Sex

Susan Sarandon Says Sex Is The Secret To Staying Young

The curious case of Gor and BDSM 

Why Your ‘Signature Move’ Doesn’t Work for all Women

10 Ways To Make Blowjobs More Fun For EVERYONE (Yes, Really) 

The 5 most ridiculous myths about anal sex

Sex Anxieties Amongst Men And Women

No Sleep? No Sex—And a Lot More Fighting

Toronto Police Apology for Bathhouse Raids is Too Little, Too Late

How the Internet Keeps Pushing Porn’s Social Progress Forward 

Couples who divvy up household chores have best sex lives, study finds 

Dealing With A Crush When You’re In A Relationship 

Michelle Marks is dead, Brock Turner is a rapist, & men are still blaming literally every single… 

Why Write Erotic Fiction? 

Artist arrested for getting strangers to stroke her genitals 

You Weren’t Born This Way

Switzerland to open Europe’s very first ‘fellatio cafe’ 

Sex-Positive Does Not Mean Anything Goes

Jun 22

Sex Stories We Love: Daddy Does Best, Moving Past the Past, Accessible Action & More #AdultSexEdMonth

#AdultSexEdMonth rolls on! I hope you’re keeping up with so much amazing content being shared. This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinky continues the initiative with an assortment of stories highlighting the lifelong sexual learning journey we’re all on.

Check out stories on Daddy Does Best, The Why, Moving Past the Past, Accessible Action, Beyond Multiplication and Remembering Pulse.

Jun 19

Sex News! I love it! June 19, 2016

These are the victims of the Orlando night club shooting

Sex Stories We Love: #AdultSexEducation in the Stanford Sexual Assault Case

The Top 5 Sex Apps for Smart Phones

Virtual Sex: Is It Real Sex?

confessions of a demisexual

When A Condom Fails: LELO HEX

Here Are All The People Applauding The Orlando Gay Club Shooter

Oregon resident allowed to change sex from female to nonbinary | Oklahoma City – OKC – KOCO.com

Do Different Consumption Methods Impact Your Sexual Performance?

Kinky Sex Positions for Dominant Women – With Pictures!

The Key to Lasting Longer in Bed: Five Tips For Him

The Science Behind The Profound Power Of Holding Hands

Go forth and multiply: UK research suggests math could boost your sex life — even into your 80s

Owen Jones of the Guardian Walks Out of Segment on Orlando Shooting

Orgy and wife-swapping festival to attract 700 swingers to sleepy rural community

Nudity and naturism is ‘best way to teach sex education’ to children

Judge in Controversial Brock Turner Case Removed From New Sex Assault Case – NBC News

The Addictive Orgasm Apps Changing Sex Ed

Why don’t men have good sex toys?

What It’s Like to Work at Victoria’s Secret

Ashley Judd: We Can’t Ignore Refugees’ Sexual Health

Up Close and Personal, with Dayv and Rose Caraway

5 Ways To Snag A Unicorn For Your Threesome | Luna Matatas

What Sex Was Like in Medieval Times

President Obama just said we shouldn’t shame women for having sex

‘My favourite thing is to be hogtied’: The growing trend of stressed workers who are using BONDAGE to relax

What it’s like … for a father to teach his daughters about sexual health

The Sexiest, Most Seductive Movies Ever Made

Pornhub launches explicit audio for the visually impaired

Our Queer Children’s Heroes

Male Strip Club Employees Tell Us Their Craziest Bachelorette Party Stories

How bellhops and newsboys turned tricks in old Toronto

Why Do We Have Sex? Let’s Count The Reasons — Sex And Psychology

Where Your Dude Likes to Cum and What it Says About Him

No, People Who Have Rape Fantasies Aren’t Twisted Or Damaged

Jun 15

Sex Stories We Love: #AdultSexEducation in the Stanford Sexual Assault Case

This week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly is a misnomer. We do not love this story, not one bit. The travesty that is the Brock Turner sexual assault conviction dominated the sexual world and, in a rare instance, became the only sex story I could write about this week. It is also a very strong teachable moment, to continue our theme of #AdultSexEdMonth. It is rape culture and we all need to learn about it and help to destroy it.

Jun 12

Sex News! I love it! June 12, 2016

Sex Stories We Love: Plentiful Positions, Determined Dreaming, & Pervy Profiles

Feminist porn director Pandora Blake wins right to reinstate fetish website in landmark ruling

School Board Trustee Won’t Run for Re-Election Because Trans Students Want Respect

Sex robots to become a reality

The Stanford Rapist’s Father Offers An Impossibly Offensive Defense Of His Son

Denmark’s bizarre series of sex campaigns lead to baby boom

‘You took away my worth’: A sexual assault victim’s powerful message to her Stanford attacker

‘A steep price to pay for 20 minutes of action’: Dad defends Stanford sex offender

Everything You Need to Know About How to Go Down on a Woman

For The BEST Sex of Your Life Use This MAGICAL Substance

One tonne bondage castle goes on display at Canberra’s National Gallery of Australia

What It’s Like to Attend a Sexual Wellness Retreat

This is How You Please a Woman.

Brock Turner’s Childhood Friend Blames His Rape Conviction on Political Correctness

I quit my job to breastfeed my boyfriend every two hours

​Canada’s Ridiculous Ruling That Oral Sex with Animals Is Legal Shows Need for New Bestiality Laws

Why We Love the Porn of Our Youth

Apple rejects vagina-fingering game from its App Store, which is a shame. It looks fun.

Long-distance Loving Could Feel Real with Skinterface Touch Technology

The Man Who Wants to Change the Way Men Get Off

The Conversation You Must Have With Your Sons


Where are all the bisexual men?

Perverts are everywhere, but women needn’t tolerate them: DiManno

Porn Site xHamster Is Shaming Users For “Rape” Searches

Here’s What Happened When I Grew Out My Armpit Hair for Porn

5 Porn Stars Debunk The Myth Of The Perfect “Porn Pussy”

What does Brock Turner’s mom have to say?

Adult Performers Testify Against Ballot Initiative’s Privacy Violations

Politics & love: Can TrumpSingles make dating great again?

Thailand Ends Mother-To-Child HIV, Syphilis Transmission: UN

Someone opened an ‘adult nursery’ in Illinois. And yes, it’s kind of a sex thing.

Robots, VR and the future of male masturbators

Texas Says It’s OK to Shoot an Escort If She Won’t Have Sex With You

Jun 05

Sex News! I love it! June 5, 2016

The Seven Deadly Sex Sins: Envy

Vorze Cyclone Review: A Force of Sexual Nature

Sex Stories We Love: 40+ and Frisky, No Butts About It, & STI 411


The Post-Reproductive Future of Sex Has Already Arrived for the Elderly

The Best Workouts for Sexual Stamina

Dreams That Fulfill Your Kinkiest Desires

The Internet of Sexy Things: The Future of Interconnected Eroticism

Scientists Explain Why We Have Oral Sex

The Surprising But Logical Reason So Many Straight Women Are Into Gay Porn

Why Some Men Won’t Eat Pussy

Seven Fascinating Facts About Sexual Fantasies

16 Fascinating, Intimate Photos Of Prostitutes Throughout History

Getting and Giving Head When You’re Disabled

Porn’s First Union President: Performers Should Be 21+ Only

This Is What’s Inside Your Vibrator

Ghost-hunters hear groans in graveyard, are absolutely shocked at what they find

The Best Sex Positions You Should Try Tonight

Is Your Glass Sex Toy Truly Safe?

[NSFW] Sophie Ebrard Spent Four Years Taking Behind-the-Scenes Photos of Porn Shoots

Comingle, that beloved DIY dildo startup, is having a funeral and everybody’s invited!

Men Talk About Their Penises (NSFW)

9 “Weird” Things Everyone Does In Bed That Are Totally Normal

What’s Your True Sexual Orientation? The Purple-Red Scale Is Here to Help You Find Out

Why The Dichotomy Between Porn And Erotica Is False And Destructive

Pop this: Your hymen is a myth

8 Little Indicators You’re Good In Bed — Like, Seriously Though

15 Life Tips From A Slightly Mad Midlife Sex Goddess

The ‘Susan Lucci of Porn’ Steps Out of the Shadows


Top Sex Questions from Kids (and How to Answer Them)

Buying your daughter a vibrator: What the parenting books don’t tell you


Jun 01

My Next Sex City—HAPPY PRIDE!—With Oasis, Glad Day & Buddies in Bad Times!


On my next Sex City, we will welcome some of Toronto’s most beloved queer community institutions into the studio to tell us about the amazing events they’ve got going on for the now month-long festival of queer culture!

On TUESDAY June 7, I will welcome some awesome folks to the Sex City studios at 11PM ET on 89.5FM in the Toronto area and CIUT.FM streaming live!

  • Evalyn Parry is the Artistic Director of Buddies in Bad Times Theatre which will be presenting their annual QUEER PRIDE 2016 extravaganza
  • Michael Erickson of Glad Day Bookshop will tell us about PROUD VOICES 2016
  • Fatima Mechtab of Oasis Aqualounge will give us a peek at the many different PRIDE FESTIVITIES the club will be hosting (and be ready to call in for a chance at a special prize!)

Tune in, 11pm – midnight on TUESDAY JUNE 7 to CIUT 89.5FM in the Toronto area or stream live online!

Jun 01

Sex Stories We Love: #AdultSexEdMonth—40+ and Frisky, No Butts About It, & STI 411

June has become a very exciting time for people who love exploring sex, taking about sex, considering sex in new ways and teaching about sex. A few years back, the initiative #AdultSexEdMonth was started by the incomparable Bobbie Morgan to explore the ways we can take sex and sex education for adults further. Unfortunately, we lost Bobbie last autumn, but a number of sex bloggers, including Kinkly Cara Sutra, want her legacy to live on in this important endeavour. So bring it on!

June’s selections in Sex Stories We Love will be collections of writings, articles and posts that encompass the ideals of #AdultSexEdMonth. Bobbie and I shared this column for over year and I can’t think of a better way to remember her.

Check out this month’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly including stories on Some Folks Learn…Some Folks Don’t, 40+ Frisky, No Butts About It, STI 411, Kink Doesn’t Bite, Favourited/Liked/Shared, and And Finally…

May 31

Vorze Cyclone Review: A Force of Sexual Nature—My latest on Future of Sex

James Brown sang about a sex machine and it was commonly assumed that was a person. Right now, after many goes with the Vorze Cyclone…I think James was predicting the future. THIS is the sex machine for people with penises. Get on the scene with this sex machine!

Check out all of my thoughts on the Vorze Cyclone in my latest review for Future of Sex! 

May 30

Seven Deadly Sex Sins: Envy


The craving for more and better is pretty ingrained in our world—even our sex lives. This month’s addition to the Seven Deadly Sex Sins series on Cara Sutra explores sexual envy. Do you crave the people you see other folks having fun with? Does the thought of your lover’s past partners drive you to distraction?

Check out Is the Ass Greener on the Other Side? 

Past posts in the series

Greed: All the Want, All the Time

Sloth: Have Great Sex…When You Get Around To It

Gluttony: Is Your Bed Too Big?

LUST: Between a Crotch and a Hard Place

May 29

Sex News! I love it! May 29, 2016

Five Knuckles, Shuffled

Sex Stories We Love: Never Too Late, Helping Statements, & Something New

5 Things To Know About Porn For Women

Women like to have sex too, so deal with it

Media Coverage Of Sex Workers Erases Our Voices

Study: Best of your sex life begins at 40!

3 Reasons Why Passions Fades & What We Can Do About It, According To Science — VIDEO

The Aggressively Erotic Art of Apollonia Saintclair

How Will Millennials Pay for Sex?


Sex Toys For Men That Don’t Suck

This New App Makes Sex Ed Into A Game

Facebook is the best tool for learning about PrEP

Sex Shop Workers Welcome the Protections of a Retail Union


Porn isn’t a public health hazard. It’s a scapegoat.

Confessions of a Sex Toy Tester: Revealing Sex Toys

The Meanings Behind The 5 Most Common Sexual Fantasies

Kinky Dating Introduction – Know Thyself

Don’t Call Me Baby: When Sexy Roleplay Is A Complete Turn-Off

Inside The Surprisingly Big Overwatch Porn Scene

The Human Puppy Programme & Why I Love Puppy Play


How Many People Want Implants That Deliver Instant Orgasms?

How Your Sex Life Affects Your Butt Size

Alcohol, Recreational Drugs, Prescription Meds + Sex

Same-sex, gender talk leads Halton Catholic trustees to vote down bullying policy

Terrifying Transition

‘Virtuous Pedophiles’ Put Therapists In An Ethical Catch-22

Chilling Effect: Youtube Bans Erika Lust’s SFW Erotic Film

May 25

Sex Stories We Love: Never Too Late, Helping Statements, & Something New

One last tug at Masturbation Month with this week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly! My fingers have been  happily flying across the keyboard throughout May looking for stories to share about self-pleasure, and it was nice to see there were so many! Great job folks! Let’s keep it up all through the year!

Check out this week’s stories on Survey Says…, Language, Please!, Never Too Late, Helping Statements, and Something New.

May 22

Sex News! I love it! May 22, 2016

Sex Stories We Love: Recognizing Magic, Own Your Own, & Masturbation Menage

The fascinating history of how courtship became ‘dating’

A Recipe For Better Sex

Inside the Greatest X-Rated Animated Film You’ve Never Heard Of

The Jar of Melted Sex Toys – Where Are They Now?

5 Tips for Reaching Orgasm

10 Fascinating Movies About The Porn Industry

Man Receives First Penis Transplant in the United States


How Do People’s Beliefs About Average Penis Size Match Up With Reality?

Is This Porn? 5 Realities Inside A Strange New Artform

Pineapple! The Top 15 Safe Words In The U.S.

If You Get It, You Give It

Wolverine’s Long List of Lovers

NIH-Led Team Discovers New HIV Vaccine Target

California Becomes First State To Make Sexual Consent Lessons Mandatory In High Schools Beginning Next Year

Justin Trudeau announces transgender rights legislation: ‘We can and should do more’

“Call Us ‘One Erection'”

When will we stop needing to ‘humanise’ sex workers?

5 Sex/Relationship Myths Therapists Should Stop Believing

Here’s What Happens When Women Refuse to Be Masturbation Sleeves

The Importance Of Talking To Young Women About Pleasure

Disabled Sexuality: We’re Here, We’re Queer —And We’re Sexy!

My Friends and I Beat Up My Rapist, And I Will Never Apologize for Getting Revenge

Cruising in Berlin’s famous Tiergarten

1,032 People Were Surveyed on How They Masturbate, Here’s What They Said

My Soulmate Is Somewhere Out There, Learning How To Fuck Right

The laws that sex workers really want

Susan Sarandon Should ‘Do Her Research’ Before Joining Porn Industry

Pornhub’s Bangfit Helps You Turn Sex Into a Real Workout

Meet The Unicorn Of The Virtual-Reality Porn World

The Long, Complex And Very NSFW Relationship Between Photography And Sex Work

We Need To Talk About These Penis-Shaped Lipsticks

Don’t write that! What’s it like to be the boyfriend of a famous sex blogger