May 08

Sex News! I love it! May 8, 2016

Sex Stories We Love: Highway to Hell, Solo for Science, & Self Service

Your Hands-On Guide to Solo Sex

7 ways to bring your sex life into the 21st century, from digital sex toys to VR porn


Why 69 Is the Most Garbage Sex Position Ever

Victorian Vibrators The doctor will please you now.

Frozen 2: People are campaigning to make Elsa the first LGBT princess in Disney’s history

Why Laws That Criminalize Buyers of Sex Only Make Sex Work More Dangerous

Identity 2016: What’s it like to date someone who’s asexual?

We Tend To Select Romantic Partners Who Look Like Our Parents

Apparently Game Of Thrones Is So Popular It Has An Effect On Porn Consumption

Two-thirds of Canadians believe most sex-assault claims are true

Legendary Photographer Charles Gatewood 1942-2016

The Trouble With Threesomes

This Nerd Is Rewriting ’50 Shades Of Grey’ And It’s Better Than The Original


these graphs tell a shocking story about the rampant college hookup culture

My First Time: At a Sex Club

5 OUTRAGEOUS Things We Bet You Never Knew About Masturbation

Masturbation Month 2016: Everything you need to know about orgasms

A New Survey Reveals How Women Are Really Masturbating

Dating Sites for People with Herpes Aren’t All They’re Cracked Up to Be

Some dating apps lead to STD outbreak

What’s Dollifcation And Why Does It GUARANTEE The Best Orgasms EVER?

7 Ways to Sell Your Erotica (or Erotic Short Stories)

This New Penis Coloring Book Helps You Reduce Stress With Dick Art

Arsonist attempted to set fire to Canada’s only clinic providing sex reassignment surgeries

Solo Sex is Real Sex

Infographic: How A Man’s Body Image Affects His Sex Life

Down in the Mouth: Tips for Enjoying Oral Sex


‘I Wished I Was The Ladybug:’ Inside The World Of Size Fetishes

I Did Sex Work To Support Myself Through Law School

Ken Popert to step down as executive director of Pink Triangle Press

A Sex-Themed Amusement Park is Coming to Brazil

Indonesia police confiscate sex toy mistaken for ‘angel’How Circumcised Vs. Uncircumcised Penises Affect Sex, From A Woman Who’s Known Many Uncut Men

My Top 3 Sex Problems as a Woman. {Adult}

Should Prostitution Be a Crime?

Masturbation as Medicine

Submitting to a Mistress

Apr 19

New Review! The Womanizer!


This is the sex toy that has the world buzzing. Well, not really buzzing, because that is not what the Womanizer is about.

Learn more about the Womanizer when I interview a rep from the company Tuesday May 3 on Sex City!

When you spend a lot of time with sex toys and products, it is easy to expect certain standards. The creme de la creme of the sex toy industry tend to be sleek with minimal design, meet body safe requirements, feature sturdy construction and boast a distinct name. These are the hallmarks that often signify the arrival of a quality product.

Well, the Womanizer hits one of those pillars…it also happens to be an extremely pleasurable product.

To be clear, I’m reporting the experiences of my partner. I don’t have a clitoris—the anatomy the Womanizer is specifically meant to pleasure. So, while I may not be a fan of the name or design and worry about the long-term sustainability of the construction, I am not, ultimately the market for the product. So, I sat back with pen (yeah pen) in hand and observed.

And what did I see? I saw pleasure. I saw orgasms. I saw smiles.

As she’s not big on flowering description, my partner described the Womanizer a couple of different ways. The first time I used it on it and while she did enjoy it, she deem the sensation “a bit weird.” This could be because it does not feel like a traditional vibrator. Instead, the Womanizer uses “pleasure air technology” and can, apparently, allow people with sensitive clits the possibility of orgasm without actually touching the toy to their body. That would be pretty remarkable, but wasn’t our experience.

On another day, she used the Womanizer on her own and thoroughly enjoyed it. No weird feelings at all this time. I noted that she did experience one of the quicker orgasm I’ve seen her enjoy. Featuring 5 speed settings, she got up to number 3 and rode that wave to pleasure. She’s curious to try more powerful settings but hasn’t made it there yet.

One observation my partner made contradicts one of my preconceived opinions on what a quality sex toy should be. She liked the lightness of the toy. I fear it might not last in the long-term because of that, but she enjoys that it isn’t as heavy as other items in our pleasure chest. Time will tell.

As noted, the Womanizer directly and specifically stimulates the clitoris, so it is a specialized toy. If this type of stimulation does not appeal or work for you, then this toy might not be a good fit. Because it does feature a good range of speed settings, I do think there is the potential for pleasure for people along both ends of the spectrum of clitoral sensitivity.

In the end, The Womanizer is a perfect example of the old maxim “don’t judge a book by its cover.” This is a very good addition to your collection!

This product was provided free of charge in return for an honest review.


Apr 14

Sex City Spring Membership Drive Show—So Much Fun!

I had a blast hosting this year’s Sex City Spring Membership show! Having Fatima Mechtab from Oasis Aqualounge, Jason Armstrong and Rebecca Kava in the studio made it so good. And we were joined by Taylor J. Mace on the phone for a bit which was a bonus! All these folks do great things in the sex community and them taking their time to help out our campaign was greatly appreciated.

Take a listen to the whole show of sexy shenanigans and please become a member or donate to CIUT—the station that let’s us talk all about sex, sexuality and gender on the air!

Feb 22

My next Sex City—March 1! Dr. Jess! Lynsey G! Jillian Keenan!

Just take a look at the amazing minds who are coming on my next Sex City— it is going to be a good one!

On TUESDAY MARCH 1, I will welcome some awesome folks to the Sex City studios at 11PM ET on 89.5FM in the Toronto area and CIUT.FM streaming live!

  • Dr. Jessica O’Reilly returns to Sex City to tell us about her upcoming workshop at Good for Her—Steamy Sex for Couples!
  • Lynsey G is the sex world’s “Renaissance Woman”—a journalist, poet, blogger, artist, model, porn critic, copyeditor, and much more.
  • Jillian Keenan is a journalist and writer out of New York whose upcoming book Sex with Shakespeare recounts how the Bard’s works helped her embrace her “unusual” sexual identity.

Tune in, 11pm – midnight on TUESDAY MARCH 1 to CIUT 89.5FM in the Toronto area or stream live online!

Jan 30

Amazing New Book: Solosexual: Portrait of a Masturbator


I was honoured to be asked to work on this amazing new book by Jason Armstrong. Solosexual: Portrait of a Masturbator is a stunning look into the world of those for whom masturbation—”The Bate”—is their prime sexual interest. Jason’s writing is unabashed memoir, a stirring manifesto and an investigation into living a life in which masturbation is one’s primary sexual outlet.

Solosexual: Portrait of a Masturbator is available NOW in paperback and Kindle formats.

If any of my sex blogging or podcasting friends might be interested in profiling or reviewing the book or interviewing Jason, you can reach him at or let me know.

Jan 10

First Sex City of 2016! Jordan B. Wright! Soma Stanford! Oasis!

It felt good to ring in the new year with such a great group of guests on my first Sex City of 2016. It was lovely to welcome back Fatima from Oasis Aqualounge to hear about their upcoming 3rd year anniversary edition of Sapphic Aquatica. After meeting at Glad Day Bookshop last month, it was great to talk with Soma Stanford more about her writing of her lesbian erotic novel Jade Wallace. And more about the politics and meaning of Jordan B. Wright‘s awesome songs was a great set up for the launch of his CD,  Everything Blue, at the end of the month.


Jan 10

Sex News! I love it! January 10, 2016

5 Crazy Ideas About Female Sexual Desire in History

Here’s The Exact Time Of Day To Have The Most Mind-Blowing Sex

21 People Confess The Problems With Having Too Much Sex

Melbourne’s RMIT University runs design course on how to make sex toys

A look back at 2015’s top sex science, TV, film, tech, news, and more

A Man with a Bionic Penis Is About to Lose His Virginity to an Award-Winning Dominatrix

Here’s What Happens When These Lesbians Touch A Penis For The First Time

There’s Now a Dating Website Where White People Can Meet White People

Rape Is Not A Death Sentence

Bill Cosby: Rape culture journalism

With Sex Workers Too, Rape Is Still Rape

18 Things You Should Never Put In Your Vagina

Seven slutty places in Toronto

Sex work apps are about more than advertising – they can keep workers safe

What A Sex Worker Can Teach You About Working For Yourself

The Pleasure In Withholding Orgasm

2015: A VR Porn Snapshot

The 30 most important sex scenes in movie history

Knocking at Your Back Door: An Intro to Anal Pleasure for Straight Men

Are Bisexuals Shut Out of the LGBT Club?

The Best Sex Books of 2015

Enthusiasm For Sex Isn’t The Same Thing As Sex-Positivity

New Year, New Start To Your Sex Life

Top 100 Sex Blogs Redux

This Is What Happens When You Go to a Live Porn Shoot at a Toronto Club

‘Nerdlesque’ combines burlesque with geek culture

How To Spot A Spiritual Sexual Predator

7 Sex Positions That Incorporate Your Hands

Porn For Women Retrospective 2015

How to not sound cheesy during roleplay and dirty talk

How to Have the Gentle Sex Your Doctor Ordered

Hot Robots Won’t End Sex

Behind the headlines

My Wedding Night Was Interrupted by a Coke-Fuelled Orgy in my Apartment

If I Had a Big Dick I’d Be OK

Giantess Porn Is Getting Bigger… And Bigger


The abrupt end of Danny Wylde’s porn career: Love, addiction and the decline of adult film

How I Went From Being His Stripper To Being His Wife

The Next Sexual Revolution Won’t Come in a Pill

Behind the Scenes of Tori Black’s Virtual Reality Porn Debut

Cartoon Network defends decision to censor same-sex romance in Steven Universe


Cologne convenes crisis meeting about ‘new dimension’ of organized crime after mass sex attack

Massage Therapist Accused Of Jerking Off On The Job Blames Smelly Client For One-Handed Rubdown

The British Are Coming: Meet the UK Lads Who Take Sex-Tourism Trips to Small-Town America Overhauls Policies After Deen Abuse Claims

Spanking: How a sexual fetish went mainstream 

The Psychology of Stress, Orgasm, and Creativity

Our Bodies, Our Sex Toys: 6 Accessible Sex Toys

Taking the word “foreplay” out of my vocabulary

One Mom’s Hilariously Honest Take On ‘Parent Sex’

Pornhub’s 2015 Year in Review

Nov 17

Guest Moderating Sex Talk Tuesday—December 1! Sex & Philanthropy!


I am thrilled to be hosting my second #SexTalkTuesday on December 1!

I will be tweeting from my account @SexinWords into the conversation on the #SexTalkTuesday hashtag, Of course, you can also follow along at @SexTalkTuesday!

Check out the conversation on December 1 at 3PM EST when we will be discussing Sex & Philanthropy! We will be eager to hear your ideas on giving to sex-related causes, people, events and organizations. How people share their resources is a complex idea, and whether they want to extend generosity to the sexual world is a unique situation.

I hope to hear from you on December 1, 3PM EST for Sex Talk Tuesday!

Nov 15

RADICALS | Reading Series—December 9!

I can’t believe I was asked to be a part of this event. Look at this line-up!!!!

RADICALS | Reading Series comes to Toronto for the Sex Cinema, Video and Porn Edition. From “straight” circle jerks to fantasies on film, RADICALS explores stories and theories about the sex cinemas scene and the pornography on screen. Remington’s will become a video palace where one can indulge in the seductive words from some of the most provocative storytellers. Featuring Bruce LaBruce, Sasha Van Bon Bon, Francisco Ibanez-Carrasco, Sky Gilbert, Shawn Syms, Flare Smyth, Jon Pressick and Mike Miksche.


Wednesday December 9th @ 7PM
379 Yonge Street


Nov 12

Playground Conference—This Weekend!

Playground Conference is this weekend in Toronto! There are many outstanding speakers and workshops and if you’re in the area, I hope you’ll come out. You can still get passes and individual session tickets.


I’ll be exhibiting all weekend, selling Best Sex Writing of the Year, “pick a sexy journey”-style erotica and my silly and sexy pins, including Hanky Pins!

I will also have donation and membership forms for CIUT’s The Sound of Your City membership drive. CIUT is the home of my radio show Sex City and we’re looking for your help so that we can continue bringing sex news and information to public radio! You can also donate to CIUT right here! And you can talk to me about the special offer of cohosting the show with me for a $50 donation!

I will also have copies of Carlyle Jansen’s amazing SEX YOURSELF: THE WOMAN’S GUIDE TO MASTERING MASTURBATION AND ACHIEVING POWERFUL ORGASMS for sale. You’ve got to pick it up!

Come check out the conference, check out so many cool folks interested in talking about and learning about sex and check out my stuffs!