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Part of what I really enjoy about reviewing sex products is the opportunity to experience innovation (regardless of success) and the chance to have a giggle. The other part is the pure and simple joy of finding great, new sex stuff! This week I was lucky enough to get both a giggle and to try something new. Check out my new reviews for Cara Sutra! Pjur Med Soft Glide Silicone Lube with Jojoba Tickler Buddy Adjustable Erection Holder

Sex Stories We Love

The Latest Sex Stories We Love: Fallen, False Idol, Pleasure Confusion & Procreation With a Pro

December 9, 2015

It was impossible not to write about James Deen for this week’s Sex Stories We Love. This story will continue to dominate the sex world’s headlines—and rightly so. It could be a watershed moment in so many ways. But there is more to this week’s column! Sure, I go on a big rant about the Fallen, False Idol, but I also share Confused About Pleasure, A Kiss is Not Just a Kiss, Procreation with a Pro and Let Your Mind Wander. Check out this week’s Sex Stories We Love!

Sex News / Sex News! I Love It!

Sex News! I love it! December 6, 2015

December 6, 2015

How Will Stoya’s Shocking Allegations Against James Deen Affect The Adult Film World? Periodic Table of Feminist Porn (updated) Porn Star Stoya’s Rape Allegations Against James Deen Prompt Powerful Hashtag On Stoya, James Deen, and How to Respond to a Rape Accusation in Your Community Here’s what James Deen has said about consent If We Were Actually Honest About Sex People Think Sex Is Much Riskier Than It Really Is 11 Things That Instantly Make A Man Hot How Do You Make Sure You Are A Good Kisser? Scientists reveal relation between your weight, height, and the number of people …

Sex City

My next Sex City—December 8—Princess Kali! DAME Products! Damiva!

December 5, 2015December 5, 2015

I’m very excited to be hosting my next Sex City because I’ll be talking to some folks who are making the sex world a better place through innovative products and writing! On TUESDAY DECEMBER 8, I will welcome some amazing folks to the Sex City studios at 11PM ET on 89.5FM in the Toronto area and CIUT.FM streaming live! Princess Kali is a superstar in the kink community who is now sharing her expertise and information on erotic humiliation in her book Enough to Make You Blush. Listen in for a special chance to win a copy of the book! …

Sex Education

Going to Bed: Sleep and Sex—My Latest on Kinkly!

December 3, 2015

I really wanted to write about the relationship between sleep and sexual interest and abilities because I have terrible sleep habits, patterns and disruptions. And it really does make a positive sex life challenging. Call this one a little bit of personal catharsis. Check out Going to Bed: Sleep and Sex on Kinkly!

Sex Stories We Love

This week’s Sex Stories We Love: Sex Survey Says, Perplexing Porn Payments, Domination Comes in All Forms & More!

December 2, 2015December 2, 2015

These are some troubling times in the sex world—and this week’s edition of Sex Stories We Love was written before the James Deen issue came to light! Don’t worry, we’ve be covering that situation next week. For now, unfortunately, some of this week’s stories are dark. But there are others to balance that out. Check out this week’s Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly for stories on Sex Survey Says, Perplexing Porn Payments, Loonie Game Over, Please, War Machine Backfires, Domination Comes in All Forms, and For the Love of Keyboard Connections.

Sex Education / Sex Health

Lick Your Lips: The Taste of Sex—My Latest Sex Senses Article on Cara Sutra!

November 30, 2015

It has been a lot of fun writing my ongoing series on the Five Senses of Sex on Cara Sutra. This month we’re up to the fourth mouth-watering installment: Taste. This is another sexy sense that definitely divides people as to what they like and do not like. Check out Lick Your Lips: The Taste of Sex Also check out the three previous parts this series: A Rose By Any Other Name: Sensual Scents Reach Out: The Sexuality of Touch Listening In: The Sounds of Sex

Sex News! I Love It!

Sex News! I love it! November 29, 2015

November 29, 2015

On Stoya, James Deen, and How to Respond to a Rape Accusation in Your Community The Honesty and Weirdness of Hookup Requests on Craigslist Here’s What It’s Like To Be A Straight Man Who Has Sex With Other Men The Messy Truth About Sex After Kids Why I Am No Longer a Sex-Addiction Therapist Cage fighter ‘War Machine’ goes on trial and claims it’s not possible to rape a porn actress 5 Ways To Tell If The Sex Will Be Good Dominant women who love sucking cock The Messed-Up Story Behind Alberta’s Sad Tradition of Throwing Loonies at Strippers The …

Sex Writing

Margaret Atwood’s The Heart Goes Last: Love, Dystopia and Sex Robots—My Latest on Future of Sex!

November 26, 2015

I think we’re going to be hearing a lot about sex robots in the near future. And I’m moderately delighted because Mr. Roboto is one of my favourite songs, ever. While Margaret Atwood’s The Heart Goes Last does not entirely focussed on sexy circuitry-based sweeties, their inclusion brings a fun element to a tale that already incorporates some ditzy with dystopia. Check my latest on Future of Sex: Margaret Atwood’s The Heart Goes Last: Love, Dystopia and Sex Robots

Sex Stories We Love

Sex Stories We Love! Doin’ It On Drugs, Say NoNo To FiFi Ads, A Fetish For Clowning Around & More!

November 25, 2015

I’d written most of this week’s Sex Stories We Love when I learned of the passing of my friend and colleague Bobbie Morgan. I will always remember and appreciate the conversations we had and the thoughts we shared. I’ll be continuing on, writing Sex Stories We Love every week. This week’s edition features Checking Our Language Around HIV, Doin’ It On Drugs, Say NoNo To FiFi Ads, A Fetish For Clowning Around, Sex Worker in the Family and Paving the Way. Check out this week’s Sex Stories We Love!

Sex News! I Love It!

Sex News! I love it! November 22, 2015

November 22, 2015

Dating with Herpes: What It’s Like to Be Young, Single, and STI Positive 30 Dirty Little Poems That Will Make You Want Sex In Five Seconds Or Less The 3-Step Guide To FISTING For Curious Beginners First Person: Susie Bright on the Sex-Obsessed Paris ISIS Manifesto Inside an “Anything Goes” Sex Club THERE ONCE WAS A DILDO IN NANTUCKET Here’s why we need to talk about handjobs I Let a Guy Remotely Control My Vibrator and Here’s What Happened The National Enquirer’s Story On Charlie Sheen’s HIV Status Endangers Public Health Here’s How to Respectfully Talk About HIV Valeant’s newest …

Sex Stuff

4 New Reviews at Cara Sutra!

November 17, 2015

I had a really good time reviewing this batch of toys for Cara Sutra’s Pleasure Panel. I recommend them all! Bondara Enhancer Bondage Sex Strap Bondara Purple Velvet Large Silicone Butt Plug Bondara Wrist to Waist Bondage Cuffs Sliquid Ride Bodyworx Silk Hybrid Lubricant

Sex Community

Guest Moderating Sex Talk Tuesday—December 1! Sex & Philanthropy!

November 17, 2015November 17, 2015

I am thrilled to be hosting my second #SexTalkTuesday on December 1! I will be tweeting from my account @SexinWords into the conversation on the #SexTalkTuesday hashtag, Of course, you can also follow along at @SexTalkTuesday! Check out the conversation on December 1 at 3PM EST when we will be discussing Sex & Philanthropy! We will be eager to hear your ideas on giving to sex-related causes, people, events and organizations. How people share their resources is a complex idea, and whether they want to extend generosity to the sexual world is a unique situation. I hope to hear from …

Sex Community

RADICALS | Reading Series—December 9!

November 15, 2015November 15, 2015

I can’t believe I was asked to be a part of this event. Look at this line-up!!!! RADICALS | Reading Series comes to Toronto for the Sex Cinema, Video and Porn Edition. From “straight” circle jerks to fantasies on film, RADICALS explores stories and theories about the sex cinemas scene and the pornography on screen. Remington’s will become a video palace where one can indulge in the seductive words from some of the most provocative storytellers. Featuring Bruce LaBruce, Sasha Van Bon Bon, Francisco Ibanez-Carrasco, Sky Gilbert, Shawn Syms, Flare Smyth, Jon Pressick and Mike Miksche. FREE Wednesday December 9th …

Sex News / Sex News! I Love It!

Sex News! I love it! November 15, 2015

November 15, 2015

Your brain and your genitals don’t match all / some / most of the time. And you’re normal! Getting Behind America’s Anal Sex Fetish Let’s All Freak Out About Arousal Studies Acting in Porn When You Have Cerebral Palsy Can be Super Fulfilling These Are The Top 9 Sex Positions, According To Both Men And Women The Health Benefits of BDSM Wisdom Learned Inside of an Adult Arcade This Is Your Sex on Drugs Clothes Made From Used Blow-Up Dolls Meet the Working Moms of Porn Top 10 Fetishes This photographer is bringing back body hair in porn Meet the …

Sex Community

Playground Conference—This Weekend!

November 12, 2015November 12, 2015

Playground Conference is this weekend in Toronto! There are many outstanding speakers and workshops and if you’re in the area, I hope you’ll come out. You can still get passes and individual session tickets. I’ll be exhibiting all weekend, selling Best Sex Writing of the Year, “pick a sexy journey”-style erotica and my silly and sexy pins, including Hanky Pins! I will also have donation and membership forms for CIUT’s The Sound of Your City membership drive. CIUT is the home of my radio show Sex City and we’re looking for your help so that we can continue bringing sex …

Sex Stories We Love

My Latest Sex Stories We Love on Kinkly—Don’t Help Me, Ronda, Simulated Cinematic Sex, and More!

November 11, 2015

The sex world is abuzz with Lubegate—UFC fighter Ronda Rousey’s bizarre and foolish ideas around using lube in sex—so that had to be one of the topics covered in this week’s Sex Stories We Love. And since the time of writing, Rousey came out with even more ridiculous things to say! Just shut the fuck up when you don’t know what you’re talking about! But that isn’t the only thing we get into in this edition! You’ll also find Simulated Cinematic Sex, Working Together on Sex Ed, Sex Writers Like to Eat and Awkward But Not Alone! Check out this …

Sex City

Sex City Tonight—Fundraising! with Ms Naughty, Heiyishi Zhang & Farzana Doctor!

November 10, 2015

Tonight’s Sex City is all about supporting our host station CIUT 89.5FM with our Fall Membership Drive! Listen in as the whole crew of Dorianne Emmerton, Louise Bak, Sophie Delancey, Jon Pressick, Cordelia Huxtable and our awesome techs Oren and Brett celebrate our station CIUT 89.5FM and The Sound of Your City Campaign! Twice a year CIUT hosts a membership drive to raise funds for the many different initiatives the station embarks on to bring the diverse world to your ears through community radio. We are honoured that we get to talk to you, every week, about the many different ways sex, …

erotica

Dirty Dates: Erotic Fantasies for Couples out now!

November 10, 2015

Nothing like spending your birthday in style! Many big birthday wishes to the inimitable Rachel Kramer Bussel! It isn’t very often that the birthday person is the one doling out gifts, but to celebrate, Rachel is giving all of us present—the release of her latest anthology Dirty Dates: Erotic Fantasies for Couples (Cleis Press)! This searing hot collection features some of the biggest names in erotica including Jade A. Waters, D.L. King, Ezrabet Bishop and more! Exploring kink and BDSM, Dirty Dates brings many different representations of what those concepts means. As Rachel explains in her Introduction, “like so many aspects of …

Sex News! I Love It!

Sex News! I love it! November 8, 2015

November 8, 2015

WORD ON THE STREET: FETISHISTS TELL US ABOUT BDSM NO-NO’S 13 Things To Put On Your Ultimate Sex Bucket List Meet The Guy Who Changed Porn Forever A Brief History of Actual Sex in Movies 5 Relationship Habits of the Happiest Couples on the Planet I’m Fat And I Have Sex With Hot Strangers To The Grown Man I Dated As An Underage Teen: F*ck You SEXUALIZING STAFF IN RESTAURANTS LIKE BIER MARKT IS WIDESPREAD How to Design Sex Toys for People with Disabilities ‘That’s Not a Vagina’ is a blog with some very important lessons Peel board’s sex-ed guide …