The Hook-up: A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind

Introducing A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind

I’m going to be completely honest here: I fucked up. A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind is one of my sex blogging inspirations and I can’t believe it took me this long to feature her and her work in The Hook-up. Foolishly, I thought I already had. Well, I learned, and now you will as well. She’s taught me so very much.

How did you get into sex blogging?
By accident, really. I only started my blog as a placeholder for my erotica. I really didn’t have plans for it. Then I got the itch for what I was already doing professionally—editing, managing and writing for corporate/consumer blogs. I was shocked when I had an instant audience that grew very quickly.

You recently celebrated your 2nd blogaversary. Has your perspective on blogging changed at all during that time?
Oh, God, yes! When I started out, I had no idea how many awesome sex blogs are out there. They each have their individual approaches, areas of interests and personalities. There are so many great writers and intelligent people who pen those blogs and I love how their authenticity shines through in each of them. I always complain how search engines make them difficult to find. The information I find in them is generally much accurate and complete than the stuff found on popular magazine websites. Plus, they’re just plain damn fun to read.

As I’m going into my third year of blogging, I’m steering it toward more of a magazine style site. I guess you could call it a blogazine. I want my blog to be a little more well-rounded to read. I’m sure no one wants to read about my personal (sex) life and opinions and observations about sex and relationships all the time. As awesome as my relationship and sex life is and think there are a lot of people who can learn from and be inspired by it, the last thing I am is a narcissistic person. I’ve added a couple of new features in my blog I hope readers will enjoy.

I’ve been reaching out to certified therapists and well-known and respected sexperts to answer questions and topics about sex in Ask the Sexpert. Date Night features ideas for keeping sex and relationships fun and exciting. While there are tons of great sex toy review sites on the Interwebz, I’m really trying to focus on stuff that is brand new and under the radar in my Giveaways & Reviews section. I don’t have enough time to write my own erotica and a lot of writers spend more time and money promoting their books and stories than they actually spend time writing. That’s part of the reason why I carved out a section called The Art of Erotica. I’d like to include photographers and filmmakers in that section, too. Also, I’ve noticed a big void in all the great lingerie, clubwear an fetishwear in sex blogs. It’s why I’ve added the What’s in Your Closet? section in my blog.

Your writing is so deliciously varied from sex ed to reviews to commentary to erotica! Do you have a favourite current type these days?
I love writing more magazine/journalistic type stories about interesting people, projects and businesses in the world of sex, especially on topics that no one else is covering. It’s something I plan to do more of starting in the next couple of weeks.

You created one of the key happenings of the sex calendar: Adult Sex Ed Month. What prompted you to initiate this amazing event and what can we look forward to next year?
I created #AdultSexEdMonth for several reasons. The primary reason was because I found it so difficult to find information on topics I was researching for stories I was writing. I’m often flabbergasted about questions and advice about sex that people give each other and that I see in popular forums like Yahoo! Answers and Reddit. Sometimes I come *this* close to choking and gagging over advice I see in some popular magazines, especially one that promotes itself as being “cosmopolitan”. Lots of sex bloggers provide information that people should read and know about sex. I wanted to give them an opportunity to get their word out and expand their audiences? What better way to do that than through social media?

Who are some of the bloggers you’ve connected with out of Adult Sex Ed Month that you are now a fan of?
So many people, and forgive me if I’ve forgotten to mention any of them. Galen Fous is an amazing man. He’s a psychotherapist who specializes in working with heterosexual fetish-oriented couples. He has some great perspectives on fetishsexuality. Melissa White, CEO of Lucky Bloke is doing a great job of pulling together some great experts and advocates of safer sex in Lucky Bloke’s new companion website, safersex.education, that just launched at the beginning of June. I was thrilled to make some personal connections with Pamela Madsen and Betty Dodson. They’re both such influential trailblazers in the world of sexuality, especially for women. I’ve also become a big fan of Mr. Will’s House of Thrills because of #AdultSexEdMonth. There are very few straight men blogging on behalf of men and couples when it comes to sex. They’re so underrepresented and Mr. Will has a fantastic, quality sex blog. Symone “Kitty” Nelson, Walker Thornton, The Redhead Bedhead and Condom Depot Information Center are only a few sex blogs and bloggers I discovered when I did the first #AdultSexEdMonth in June 2013.

Another of your projects is Sex Sells—Detroit. We all assume sex sells easily…is that not the case?
I’m making a very concentrated effort to specialize my professional skills in the adult markets – adult novelty brands and retailers, dating sites, and ethical/feminist porn sites. Even though the adult novelty market is a $15 billion a year industry, it’s very much an underground market and economy. Very few companies have the budgets to pour into Google Ads. SEO advertising is only one of the things that companies should have in their marketing mix where advertising opportunities are severely restricted. With my background in journalism and content marketing, where I’ve pulled off some really great cross-media tie-ins for other clients, I’d like to perform this kind of magic for other companies.

Through all of your success, there must be some challenges. What walls do you find you come up against in sex blogging?
My recommendation is don’t quit your day job to become an entrepreneurial sex blogger. Sex blogging and tying to tie in what I do professionally with content and social media marketing has been a rough haul. Actually, blogging is a rough haul for many displaced veteran journalists regardless of their areas of expertise, but I believe it’s the wave of journalism in the 21st century.

What has been the best reaction or feedback you’ve received on your work?
Any time someone tells me that they were inspired by or learned something new in a post that I wrote is always the greatest compliment.

What can we expect from you in the future?
I’m really excited to see how my blogazine concept takes off. Ideally, I’d like to get it on the eyes of everyone who has and enjoys sex.