TMI Tuesday – November 19, 2013
I Can’t Get No Satisfaction
1. From erotica to sex blogs everyone seems to be having intense orgasms. Do you feel like you are experiencing the same intense orgasmic waves everyone talks about?
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Orgasms differ depending on the circumstances.
2. At the beginning of our sexual lives, we are often let down because it feels like nothing in comparison to what we see in films and magazines. Sexual pleasure is something you learn more about as you get older. How have you learned to cultivate the pleasure that you feel?
Different activities! Different experiences! Different body parts! Embracing positive sexuality and eliminating shame! Sex is what you make it and I aim to make it a fantastic experience every single time.
3. In the last 3 years, has your sexual pleasure:
a. waned
b. stayed the same
c. increased, enhanced, improved
In a way it has waned, but that is moreso related to frequency. When bodies change, situations and experiences change. My body has changed, somewhat.
4. If you are feeling much more sexual pleasure than your lover do you feel the need to make up the deficit or just live in the moment and enjoy what has been given to you?
My focus is often on providing sexual pleasure for my partner. I derive significant pleasure from that.
5. How important is it to you for you and your lover to have simultaneous orgasms?
a. not important – never thought about it
b. somewhat important – I think it would be nice to explode at the same time
c. important – that is what I ‘work’ for, cumming at the same time makes everything more intense–my orgasm, my feelings, the entire experience.
Great when it happens (which is rare) but not a significant concern.
Bonus: Do you think that orgasm is the same as sexual pleasure? Why or why not?
Not at all. Orgasm is not at all required for sexual pleasure (not orgasming can be really hot!) and orgasm can result in the absence of significant sexual pleasure.
