This is a very thought-provoking article by Dr. Logan Levkoff. Much of it is couched in the context of teens and their beliefs on cheating, but it is the end of the article that Levkoff hooks me.
Three questions, in relations to cheating, are offered up:
- Is the fantasy better than the reality?
- Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?
- Is emotional infidelity worse than physical infidelity?
Dr. Levkoff wants to know, so here are my thoughts!
- Having never cheated, this is hard for me to say. However, I have know people who have cheated, developed a new relationship and gone on to a long and happy time together. Sometimes the grass is equally green.
- I do think it is absolutely possible to be in love with two (or more!) people at the same time. That’s polyamory and it is gaining traction as a relationship model.
- I do believe that emotional infidelity is worse. Sex is sex. It doesn’t necessarily have an emotional impact. At the same time, emotional infidelity may not involve sex.
