The Hook-up: The Pleasure Principle

When I first came across The Pleasure Principle, I was taken by the openness of her responses to very intimate questions. I read further and found a rich and thoughtful blog. 

How did you get into blogging?

In 2008, I needed a creative outlet to express my impressions or thoughts about sex, my sex, sexuality and all the sexy, flirty fun I was having. I discovered blogs and thought, “I should do that.”

When did you come up with your unique Q & A style?
If you are referring to many of my latest blog posts, those Q & A posts are my answers to TMI Tuesday blog posts. Lately, I have not had time to blog regularly but I still try to get my TMI Tuesday written and posted; after all I produce that blog, too. TMI Tuesday is a great way to express what is going on in my life or my experiences. I think of it as a helpful writing prompt, with a weekly theme.

Are there any questions you won’t ask yourself?
Hahaha. Yes.

What other topics do you like to include?
On my blog? I talk about my thoughts on sex; relationships (in particular power exchange); sexual experiences; sex, sex, sex; kink; and my love and need for spanking. After all my tag-line is “sensual thoughts from a hedonistic smart chick.” I am all about pleasure, and that comes in many forms.

What is it that you find powerful about Desiderata?
It is as I wrote—the words give me peace and solace. I truly believe the way to peace is acceptance of oneself—your body, your home, your job, whatever it is… accept that which you have. That does not mean that you should not do better or improve. Another message I take from Desiderata is to be true to myself, which I very much try to be much more so now in the last six years of my life.

Do you think people question themselves enough about their own sex and sexuality?
No, I do not. It’s easy to think there are a lot of accepting, open-minded people in the world if you take a measure of all the sex blogs. However, even in the realm of sex blogs/sex journals if you take a good look at or read what some people say (and I do) you still find many sex bloggers are not that sex positive or not at all comfortable with their sexuality. The sex blogging world is just a microcosm of the real world. The great thing about many of the journal type blogs is many of those folks are questioning themselves, getting comfortable, and hopefully creating better sex for themselves and becoming more at peace.

Who or what inspires you?
Gosh that’s tough. When I was growing up and through my early 20s I could easily say my mother. She is a great, smart, fantastic, woman of strength. However, she is a prude…LOL (okay not so funny, I was very naive and knew nothing). So many things inspire me in the world—nature, animals, dance, music, a few people, poetry. I am fond of Khalil Gibran’s words.

My favorite saying: “Love one another, but make not a bond of love. Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of our souls”—Khalil Gibran

That is the opening of the poem but embodies the entire message.

What can we look forward to in the future from you?
Well, I would like to say that I would get back to writing regular blog posts but my life is crazy. I am the type that never sits still, I do not formally set aside time to write for myself—the blog. So while I may be having some sexy fun and great experiences I could blog about, I have not made the time to write. I enjoy blogging but it isn’t a must do thing for me and I don’t chase numbers or stats.

I will continue to share newsworthy info, sprinkled with some kinky, clever, twisted humor as well as journal about my thoughts, my sexual exploits (sexploits) and of course produce and play TMI Tuesday.