I’ve had porn on the brain lately–much moreso than usual even.
We’re in the midst of viewing submissions for The Feminist Porn Awards so most spare minutes I have at home are spent with some skin cavorting across screens.
Porn has changed a lot over the years and so have attitudes around discussing and even watching it. Couples are into dirty movies and many more are thinking about it and wondering how to address it to their partner.
Dr. Kat covers the basics about discussing, asking and enjoying, but her two strongest points are to laugh at porn (but not too much to spoil the eroticism) and to not be overcome by “perfect” bodies. Particularly the later. Both men and women can feel inadequate compared to porn stars. And sadly some people do compare their partners, eroding trust and love.
Porn is meant to be sexually stimulating and entertainment. Don’t forget that. If it doesn’t do it for you, pick a different movie or just don’t watch. But I do always recommend people give porn a dance because you never know!
