Very sound and reasonable advice on openly discussing sex in personal ads from Erica of A Sexy Woman of a Certain Age. I’m particularly taken with two of her points: women don’t need to police men’s behaviour—men do, and encouraging authenticity. If I’m ever in the position to be posting and reading personal ads, these are key (as well as her other great points). I think many more potential matches will start off on the right foot (or back) by adopting these ideals.