I’m sorry Charles Pulliam-Moore, but as a bi guy, I don’t want your solidarity.
In this week’s edition of bi folks are awful, Pulliam-Moore tells us WE need to be more upfront about what we want and expect from hook-ups and sexual encounters with non-bi people. You know, that whole bisexuals are sneaky and liars argument.
This, despite the fact he starts off his piece by stating that the bi guy who broke his heart told him, right from the beginning, that he was only into a hook-up, wasn’t into a long-term thing. “For him, our thing was a sex thing and only a sex thing. He could only love women. He told me this point blank and I, like a fool, pretended that I knew better.”
Wait, what? He told you that? So, how, sir, do you come up with this cherry of a statement near the end of your ill-informed whine: “I would argue that it’s even more important, particularly when it comes to bisexuals, to be ready to articulate whether or not the bang-du-jour even has the potential to be “more” should that conversation ever need to happen. Bisexuals get a bad rap for not being able to explain their emotional actions that seem so incongruous with their sexual proclivities. That doesn’t need to be the case.”
Along the way he also offers up a curious theory about emotional and sexual desires and whether bi folks generally lean toward being interested in both sexes but only one amorously. There’s another stereotype pulled in! “Rather than being equally capable of loving and fucking equally I suspect that most bi-identified people find themselves leaning towards one sex/gender vs. the other for different kinds of fulfillment.” You may suspect this, but I know this crap is just another harmful and blaming myth of bisexuality. One of the great things about being bisexual is that there is a tremendous spectrum of interest and experience. You know what? Yes, some bi folks are like that. Others aren’t. Don’t give me any of this “most” garbage.
