I am not going to degrade anyone else’s ideas of intimacy and sex, but I really dislike this piece. I don’t usually write about posts/articles I disagree with, and I’m not going to say I necessarily disagree with all of this article. However, I find it to be patronizing and demeaning. It tells me, flat out, what intimacy is. It tells me, flat out, what connection is. It tells me flat out that how I achieve intimacy and how I enjoy sex are wrong.
When it comes to enlightening and expanding sex education, this is just wrong.
To me, intimacy is gained through the physical as well as the emotional. Sometimes both, sometimes just one.
To me, intimacy is gained when I can close my eyes feel my partner without seeing that person.
To me, sharing and discussing and disclosing and laughing are for more powerful and intimate than silence. Silence can more often denote holding back.
To me, intimacy is being involved with a partner when that partner can achieve significant pleasure. I get to share in that. Sometimes I touch, sometimes I watch, sometimes I help, sometimes I am a significant cause of that orgasm.
This could have all been avoided if these were phrased as suggestions, not be-all-end-all-you’ll-never-achieve-true-intimacy tenets.
