Since I started my sex and erotica blog last September, I’ve been amazed at the number of people that have reached out to me to ask for my opinions and advice about sex and sexuality. Aside from my personal experiences and being a professional journalist and writer, I am by no means a sex expert. I just happen to be fairly informed about sex and a tenacious researcher.
However, I’m still discovering a number of publications, sex bloggers and sexual health and mental health experts that are a treasure trove of this kind of information. It’s too bad they’re buried in the depths of search engine query results. I figured starting a social media campaign would make their work, wisdom and writings a whole lot more accessible to the general public. I also hope that bringing this kind of information out in the open will help take some of the embarrassment and stigma out of having sex-positive conversations.
What topics do you hope to see explored throughout June?
Aside from providing information and how-to’s on the basics (oral sex, foreplay, intercourse, etc.), I’d also like to see information on how to choose and use sex toys and prophylactics, how to communicate with partners about sex, and safe and sane guidelines about kinks and fetishes. I also felt this was a great campaign to go along with Pride Month in the LGBT community. Gay or straight, most people have a lot to learn about sex.
Who are some of the bloggers who have signed up to post?
Be a Sex Educator Articles and resources for sex educators
Billierosie Erotica & Fetish Blogger Billierosie
Dear T.O. Boys Dating Blogger Niya B
Drs. Chuck & Jo-Ann Bird Relationship Counselors & Board Certified Clinical Sexologists Drs. Chuck & Jo-Ann Bird
Fearless Press Online magazine focused on articles about sex in the arts, community, living, relationships, spirituality and style
Good For Her Sex toy shop, sex workshops and private sex toy parties
Jet Setting Jasmine Internet Radio Sex Talk Show Host & Sex Party Planner Jet Setting Jasmine
Joan Price and Naked at Our Age – Joan Price – Sex & Aging Views & News Joan Price, advocate of ageless sexuality & fitness
Kink Academy More than 1118 videos, over 100 educators, available 24/7
Maxime Durocher Professional Male Companion Maxime Durocher
Miss Alice Gray Sex Blogger Miss Alice Gray
Molly’s Daily Kiss Kink Blogger Molly
Nom de Plume Press Erotica Book Bloggers & Reviewers Lila & Neva
Ohh My Adult Entertainment & Education Company
Passionate U Videos from a wide range of sexperts
The Redhead Bedhead Sex Blogger The Red Head Bedhead
Sex Ed With Ashley Sexuality Educator Ashley Manta
Sex in Words Sex Journalist Jon Pressick
Symone Kitty Nelson Sex Writer Symone Kitty Nelson
Tattooed Book Review Erotica Book Reviewer G.L. Pemberton
Wholesome Addiction A porncast (podcast) show about sex and the adult entertainment industry
I’m really excited about the number of people and their ranges of expertise and knowledge who have reached out to take part in #AdultSexEdMonth. Of course, I’d like to see more.
What do you think prevents people from seeking education on sexual topics?
In my past, I’ve been surprised and disappointed with some of my past partners who didn’t know what they’re doing in bed. I’m not talking about the few boys I was with when I was in college, but also college-educated and professional men in their 40’s and 50’s.
In many ways it’s not their fault. There are books, guides and classes on things like how to perform oral sex, anal sex, mutual masturbation or intercourse are out there but they’re not easily accessible. For the most part, in the 21st century, learning about sex is still a fly by the seat of your pants process for most people.
I think what stops people from looking for information and asking for advice is the puritanical religious and cultural chokehold that’s placed on sex. While it’s something almost all adults partake in, we don’t talk about it. Sure, we laugh at comedians who joke about sex and we watch porn in private, but our society can’t take the stigma and taboo out of sex. For the most part we can’t talk about sex without coming off as morally corrupt heathens and perverts. I can’t even tell you the number of people I’ve come across who say they can’t talk about sex with their spouses and significant others without embarrassment and fear of judgment.
Who are some of your sex education inspirations?
My main inspirations are Carol Queen and the folks at Good Vibrations. They’ve done a wonderful job of embracing and celebrating sex-positive attitudes and practices. I’m also a huge fan of Dan Savage.
What, in your opinion, would make this campaign a success?
I think social media discussions are a great place to start. I started to see this last year with all the buzz about the Fifty Shades of Gray series. I’ve been thrilled to see straight people like myself openly support same-sex marriage and rights in the U.S. I’d like to encourage as many people as possible to share credible and sex-positive information about sex with the hashtag #AdultSexEdMonth.
What else can we look forward from your in the future?
Right now, my blog and erotica are my hobbies. I’d love to be more of a public and professional advocate of sex-positive professionals and businesses in the marketing world. Unfortunately, I have clients that would not want to be associated with that.
