I am definitely going to use Dr. Trina Read’s “frozen muffin” analogy. In relation to sex and life in general.
But I need to add something to it: don’t always be the one who thaws the muffins.
Trina noted how the hug she gave helped to abate the situation. However, all too often one person in a relationship takes on that role. And the other, sometimes ignorantly, sometimes deliberately, embraces the role of never having to ‘break.’
This can be just as bad, if not worse than just having it out once in a while. Anger and resentment will fester and a potentially negative power imbalance might ensue.
Instead, make sure you’re always ready to take a breath and extend some love. No martyrs, no dominating, just caring for each other.
