Today’s #dailysexdiscussion, and some subsequent chat with Andee Charm got me thinking about my own relationship with fetish, specifically my own.
The question was “Do you have a secret fetish, one that you don’t tell anyone about?”
And I guess my answer is “yes”…well…”sort of.”
My own fetish isn’t entirely secret because my partner is aware of it and we do engage in it.
But I’ve not discussed it with anyone else.
I have, surreptitiously, displayed my own predilection by wearing one of my own Hanky Pins. But it isn’t an obvious flag, so no one figured it out.
One time I had a guest on Sex City who is a porn model of the particular body part I fancy. That interview went wild because I forgot to tell my guest about CRTC rules about language and she went on to describe her ultimate gangbang in graphic detail. I both feared that part (thinking I’d get the show thrown off the air) and loved it because she detailed some hot action that I’d love to get in on.
I haven’t been visiting Fetlife much the past few years, but I drop in once in a while. I signed up within the first few months of the site and started a group devoted to my secret pleasure. Recently I signed in to start posting the Daily Sex Discussions. I spotted the group that I started on the side and found it had grown to well over 300 members. Now I’ve got some catching up to do!
Probably the most “out” I’ve been with this desire has been including some hot scenes of it in the story I wrote called “Rip,” which was published in the Kink & BDSM issue of Corset Magazine. However, the story itself contained some other deliciously kinky elements and this part of it might have flown under the radar.
“Quit being coy!” you say. “Just blurt it out!”
Okay, here it is.
I like armpits. Particularly hairy, female armpits.
This liking has been in me for a long time, and fortunately I’ve had a couple partners who engage my passion. I like to touch and lick. I like the taste of my partner’s sweat on a hot, summer’s day.
I think that my reluctance to say this in a public way has to do with the “ewww’ factor. Hell, I’ve talked all about all kinds of other sexual interests I have all over the place. But even I couldn’t get past the stigma associated with armpits. Even though I often let to bury my mouth in my partner’s soft hair while we fuck.
But for everyone out there who might say “ewww,” I saw give it a try. Either giving or receiving. There might be some tickling, there might be some awkwardness. But you just might find a wonderful, sensual and sensitive new spot.
I find this liberating to write. I mean, it isn’t earth shattering or all the important, but it is good to “out” myself in this one little way. However, I don’t think it is something that people need to do. I don’t think we are obliged to present our sexual interests to everyone out there.
So, to borrow the name of the Fetlife group I started, I hereby raise my hand because I like armpits!
