WOW! This excellent piece by Jillian Keenan on the sexual nature of spanking has blown my mind. I found it and bookmarked it to read this morning and now my day is going to be filled with this incredible debate:
Is there a difference between spanking of a sexual manner and the act parents do to children?
My spanking background: I was not spanked as a child (I don’t think) and I did not ever spank my children (just not my belief system). I do include spanking in my sexual play, both giving and receiving. In that play, it is not a “punishment”, it is merely a physical act that feels good.
So, quite honestly, I have never considered this argument that Keenan puts forth. I have ruminated on whether or not certain acts are sexual, acts such as spanking, rope bondage—fun that does not involve “traditional” sexual zones. But now, after reading this work, I am turning over this idea that spanking is, necessarily, a sexual act being non-consensually forced on children in a power play gone very wrong.
What do you think? What are your views on spanking?