Introducing Between My Sheets
Every community needs leaders—even ones who don’t start out with that intention. Any and everyone who aspire to joining to the sex blogging community would do well to learn from Rori.
How did you get into sex blogging?
What inspired you to start your annual list of top sex bloggers?
I wanted to help readers find new blogs to read. I had a small list of personal favorites, but thought it would be fun to build out that list and than share it with others. I asked for nominations from my readers and was so pleasantly surprised with the response that I decided to do it every year. It’s really been a labor of love, because every year I have hundreds of nominations to go through and I try to be as fair as possible.
As I noted previously, I love helping people, so most come from issues I see others happen. Most of the time, this heavily overlaps with issues I’ve had myself. It always amazing me that people around the world have such similar problems, but that just tells me that we need more education out there, and more positive messages that having an active sex life is natural—and very achievable.
I still love elements of BDSM in erotica that I read, but that’s just a personal taste. Great dialogue is a must, and if the beginning doesn’t immediately grab me, I’m bored. Those things haven’t really changed over time for me. Good writing is good writing!
What I find really distracting is when a blogger refers to past events or talks about people and I have no knowledge of what they’re talking about because I’m a new blog reader and they didn’t provide a link. That’s a mistake I made myself, but I now try to include links whenever I reference something that people might not know about or whenever I continue a story I started earlier. I also have a cast of characters page on my blog where I talk about who everyone is, and I love when other bloggers do too. It really helps me get into the erotica when I know the history.
No way. I just wanted to have some fun! But, my career led me down a path where I have been constantly learning about blogging (in all niches, not just sex) and attending educational events and conferences about how to be a better blogger. As I started to learn more and more, I thought about how the same concepts apply to sex bloggers, and I wanted to share what had worked (and not worked) for me.
First, it is my opinion that you should pick a few companies to work with instead of working with every company other the sun. That way, you can meet your minimums faster (every company has its own rules about when you are paid, but in most cases, you have to make a minimum amount of money before they will cut a check).
Next, make sure you actually like the company you’re working with. Some people, especially other sex bloggers, are very vocal about working with some companies and not working with others. You have to do what YOU think is best. Don’t just go with the highest affiliate percentages. Send your readers somewhere you trust.
Also, consider factors like return policies, shipping rates, information given about the product, etc. Your readers do care about these things. Another factor to consider is how often the company does sales. When products are discounted, it’s prime time for you to promote and make some sales!
Over the past few months, I haven’t been posting as regularly as before, because I’m working on some exciting projects that are coming down the pipeline, including more ebooks and a sex blogger community site! I’m also soon expanding to have a podcast as well, which is really exciting, and I hope everyone will give it a listen!